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The Real Reason You Aren’t Making More Money (And What To Do About It)

I work with many entrepreneurs, solopreneuers and soon-to-be-entrepreneurs who all desire the same thing: more freedom.

And a part of that freedom comes the desire for more money.

But, the money seems to elude many. Why?

Most of the reasons people give for why they aren’t making more money are symptoms of a deeper issue.

Here are some common symptoms I see:

– They think they don’t have the time.
– They think they need more money to get started.
– They are delaying (forever) quitting their soul-sucking job.
– They are not staying consistent with best practices to grow their business… like publishing consistent content online.
– They are not making offers or invitations for people to work with them.
– They seem to freeze when anything “tech” related shows up, even if using the “tech” is the same or easier as using Facebook, Netflix or other apps they use w/o stress.
– They spend lots of money easily on things that do not matter or more the ball forward in their career, however, are penny pinchers when it comes to investing in things that will help them grow their business or make more money.
– They are scared to go live on Facebook/IG, etc.
– They think they have to have it all done perfectly.
– They need a plan that they are 100% sure will work.

And many more.

What’s the root of all this? If these are just symptoms, what’s the real cause?

Simple: unhealed emotional trauma.

You see, trauma changes your brain.

It creates a “new normal” in your body where you are constantly aware of, looking for, being vigilant to prevent… more trauma.

And, unhealed emotional trauma comes in many forms. Sometimes it can be big and sometimes is can be small.

And, many times, it’s not about what happened… but how you held it afterwards.

It’s commonly reported that it can be more traumatic to suffer alone or silently for a long time, than the actual events of trauma.

So, after we experience trauma (and we all do to one degree or another) – the brain changes. The nervous system adapts and takes on the stance of defense and vigilance.

This is the new normal.

The body is always looking to maintain homeostasis (aka balance).

It’s like a thermostat… never too hot and never too cold. Just right.

For purposes of this blog, it’s… never too rich… never too poor… it’s just right.

The reason why you aren’t making more money is because your nervous system doesn’t want you to do anything new.

Anything that could disturb the balance it’s working to maintain for your survival.

Many of the habits I listed above… the symptoms if you will – all represent taking your body and nervous system out of homeostasis (out of balance) and pose a generalized threat to your survival.

So, even though most of the “tech” is easy to figure out, your nervous system will make you all confused, scared and want to give up.

Why? To keep homeostasis.

So, you’ve got to intervene and send your body signals you are safe. That is where meditation, trauma work, a peer group to support you… and a mentor come into play.

You can’t intervene on your nervous system alone.

You need support.

Making more money isn’t about some whiz/bang/boom strategy du jour.

It’s about feeling safe in your self, feeling safe in your choices and knowing that no matter what… you got this and you won’t die.

Going live on Facebook won’t’ kill you.
Figuring out the “tech” won’t kill you.
Making an offer won’t kill you.
Heck, even getting rejected won’t kill you.

But… staying the same… not changing… that is slowly killing your purpose and your soul.

If you need help and coaching to do your trauma work, to breakthrough these inner blocks… that’s exactly why I wrote my book, Claim Your Power.

It’s a 40-Day journey to discover the hidden blocks (traumas) that are holding you back… and how to overcome them and make friends with them.

Claim Your Power can help you turn your nervous system into your ally… and support you every step of the way. I even created a free coaching course to go along with it, so you don’t have to do it alone.

>Grab your copy of Claim Your Power here. 

Let’s turn your nervous system into your ally, let’s create a new normal and let’s uproot all the things that are holding you back from earning more financially.

You got this.

Remember to get out there, take action and make your Purpose real.

Your biggest supporter,


What is Depression? New Discoveries Could Help Us Better Understand & Heal

What is depression?

The American Psychiatric Association states:

“Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease a person’s ability to function at work and at home.”

The APA also states the 1 in 6 people will experience depression in their lifetime.

Additionally, the APA states there are four primary factors that play a role in depression:

1. Biochemistry: Differences in certain chemicals in the brain may contribute to symptoms of depression.

2. Genetics: Depression can run in families. For example, if one identical twin has depression, the other has a 70 percent chance of having the illness sometime in life.

3. Personality: People with low self-esteem, who are easily overwhelmed by stress, or who are generally pessimistic appear to be more likely to experience depression.

4. Environmental factors: Continuous exposure to violence, neglect, abuse or poverty may make some people more vulnerable to depression.

And, these are all factors, indeed.

However, cutting-edge science is showing us that depression is not entirely what we thought it was.

There are four more factors that must be considered when evaluating and treating the cause of depression.

They are:

1. Gut health.
2. Unhealed emotional trauma.
3. The health of the Vagus nerve.
4. A sense of Purpose or meaning.

Let me explain.

You see 90% of serotonin is produced in the gut.

And, when we have low serotonin, we tend to have lower moods, and this can contribute to a state of depression.

So, in order for our body to restore proper production of serotonin, it will never come from a drug. We must work to restore our bodies own production of serotinin in the gut.

Therefore, gut health is vital in helping elevate your mood and help you get out of a depressive state.

Next, depression is correlated to unhealed emotional trauma.

Harvard reports that emotional trauma, both in childhood and later in life, leaves you most susceptible to depression.

If you have any kind of unhealed trauma (that can be big, or small), you are much more likely to develop depression.

An emerging model of how humans process and deal with stress may explain a very practical purpose for depression.

The vagus nerve influences many functions of the body.

One of which is immobilization or feining death.

The fight or flight response is very popular and well known. However, it is not the only survival response we have.

We are also programmed to feign death in the presence of a threat.

So, depression may not simply be what we thought. It may also be an ancient Survival Pattern designed to help us withdrawal and pretend to be dead, in order to survive.

Our bodies are genius at survival. So much so, that depression may be our way of staying physically safe from a perceived threat.

When you add in unhealed emotional trauma, the body has a good reason to pretend to be dead, so that it doesn’t experience the trauma again.

Understanding that depression may be a Survival Pattern helps us have self-compassion and compassion for anyone who has struggled with depression.

Perhaps it’s not them. Perhaps it’s an automatic response to stay safe.

When we see that gut health, unhealed trauma and our body’s nervous system are perhaps causing depression or at least contributing to it in a significant want, now we see why just telling someone to “be happy” is perhaps one of the worst things we can do.

Having depression doesn’t mean you are a bad person or that there is something wrong with you.

Perhaps, it does mean that something painful happened to you. And your body is trying to cope as best it can.

Perhaps having depression means you are not producing the neurotransmitters you need to feel better, because you do not have a healthy gut.

Perhaps having depression means that you are trying to stave off any further threats and survive.

Perhaps depression is an appropriate response to an unhealthy gut, unhealed trauma and a scared nervous system that wants you to play dead and be safe.

Perhaps we need to see depression differently.

Which brings me to the fourth point.

When was the last time a medical or mental health professional asked you…

“Are you living your Purpose? Do you have meaning in your life?”

It seems odd for me to suggest this. However, the research is clear.

A recent study shows that having purpose and meaning in your life literally helps you live longer.

The study states:

“Having a purpose in life appears to widely buffer against mortality risk across the adult years.”

It can be very hard to have purpose in your life when you are shut down, don’t have a healthy gut and have unprocessed trauma.

However, purpose can be a doorway to help you get free.

It’s vital to find meaning in your pain or depression. To ask for help. And to help others.

You don’t have to make some grandiose stand and be a super hero.

But, you can make small steps every day to help others. To find what’s meaningful. To get outside yourself and help other people.

This is a vital part of reducing your symptoms of depression.

Give the above, perhaps now you can see that wishing for your depression to go away because you took a pill – it not lined up with the most up to date research.

Yes, prescription medication can save lives, and many times we need to be on it for a long while.

I am on Adderall XR for the forseeable future. However, I do not believe that this drug will be the thing I need to feel better.

Drugs can save lives, but they can’t make your trauma go away or restore balance to your gut. Drugs can’t give you purpose.

They can save your life in the short term, but in the long term, without doing the rest of the work, drugs will just help you cope better.

So, what to do next?

1. Use cutting-edge technology to improve your gut health.

The best tool I know to improve the quality of your gut and microbiome health is Viome.

>Click here to get Viome. 

Viome is a cutting edge technology that uses advanced AI to give you the exact foods you need to eat to restore your microbiome to balance. This is a vital tool in helping you feel better and improve your mental health.

2. Do your trauma work.

>If you haven’t, get my book Claim Your Power.

It’s a 40-day Functional Life Coaching™ experience to discover your trauma, help to start healing it and then turn your trauma into power and purpose.

I put together a free coaching program to go with the book, so that I can coach you the whole time through your 40 days of CYP.

You may also want to check out EMDR, EFT/Tapping, Kundalini Yoga, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Neurofeedback and work with John Barnes Myofascial Release Practitioner.

Here’s a peek at the Functional Life Coaching™ process and how it helps with trauma:

3. Help your Vagus nerve get healthy.

Ask your John Barnes Myofascial Release Practioner to help release your Vagus nerve by focusing on your diaphragm and the upper neck that connects to the head. These are two key points that can help your vagus nerve.

Additionally, the breath is the fastest way to calm the vagus nerve.

A Kundalini Yoga breathing technique Long Deep Breathing (LDB) is perhaps one of the best breathing exercises you can do to calm your vagus nerve.

4. Find a sense of Purpose

Again, this is why I wrote Claim Your Power. I worked with people for almost a decade to create the framework of this book.

It’s about how to turn trauma into purpose.

>Grab your copy of Claim Your Power here. 

As you can see, depression isn’t all that we thought.

There is new research and new tools to help us better understand depression and the exact steps we can take to help ourselves and/or our loved ones feel better and get free from depression.

I hope this article has been helpful. Please feel free to share it with anyone who may need to know this.

Please feel free to share this with your therapist, social worker, doctor or psychiatrist/psychologist and family.

It’s vital that everyone on your team be up to speed on the best tools to help take your power back from depression.

As always, remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Your biggest supporter,







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What is Functional Life Coaching™?

As the creator of Functional Life Coaching™, I get asked… What… is it…?  I partnered with 24 Hour Fitness to talk about what Functional Life Coaching™ is and to bring it nationwide.

If you’re wondering what’s really blocking you from living your best life, a life of purpose or the next level of your success… it’s unhealed emotional trauma.

When you start to neutralize your trauma, that’s when manifesting, goal setting and biohacking really start to work.

Here’s a peek at my collaboration with 24 Hour Fitness:

Do you want to know more about Functional Life Coaching™? Leave a comment with your question and let me know.

Remember to get out there, take action and make your Purpose real.

Your biggest supporter,


What To Do When You Feel Overwhelmed

Humans are funny creatures because we have conflicting desires – and these keep us stuck.

For example…

I want to start a business… but I also want more free time right away.

I want my life to change really fast for the better… but I don’t want to be overwhelmed.

I want to make money doing something that is purposeful and meaningful to me… but I don’t want to have to take any risks.

I want to change my life… but I don’t want to have to do anything that much different.

We all think and feel some version of these conflicting messages, and it keeps us stuck.

Today, I want to address the topic of “overwhelm” – which is a very common feeling many feel when trying to change/improve or upgrade their life.

The #1 rule of overwhelm is to expect it.
The #2 rule of overwhelm is to expect it.
And the #3 rule of overwhelm is to expect it.

However… you need to give it a different meaning, that’s what today’s video (a throw back to Daily Love TV) is all about.

One tip for you:

Do you know the true meaning of the word overwhelmed? Probably not. And the true meaning might surprise you.

The word is made up of two words “over” and “whelmed.”

The word “Whelm” comes from the Old English word “hwealf” which means “hollow”. Another root word of whelm comes from the Old English term “whelven” which means to “to turn a vessel upside down”.

So, when you look at the actual meaning of “Overwhelmed” – what we are saying is…. our lives are being hollowed out and turned upside down.

And I will add to that… FOR a GOOD PURPOSE.

Overwhelmed is a good thing.

And… if you look at the idea that it means “to turn a vessel upside down” – that points to the idea of an ocean or a wave.

So you can think of “overwhelm” in a new way…

From now on, when you are “overwhelmed” just imagine yourself riding a wave – and instead of fighting against it, hiding or complaining… learn to surf the wave, ride the wave, work with the wave.

A ship can only be capsized if it doesn’t ride the wave correctly. But, when you realize that you CAN ride the wave… and that this is happening FOR you and to TO you… that’s when you take your power back from the feeling of “overwhelm”.

Enjoy – and let me know what you think.

Remember to get out there, take action and make your Purpose real.

Your biggest supporter,


Will A.I. replace your job or business?

You might know me as a coach, an author, and speaker. Someone you may follow on Instagram or Facebook to get more inspiration in your day.

What you don’t know is that I am totally in love with technology and how it’s making our lives better, this includes machine learning, artificial intelligence, and other emerging fields.

If you’ve seen shows like Black Mirror, watched Terminator growing up or listen to the likes of Elon Musk, you might be terrified of AI.

But, you don’t need to be.

AI and Machine Learning is being deployed in every market across the world to aid in creating better products, gaining better insights from data and in innovation.

We are also seeing robots who are now flipping burgers instead of humans.

And, according to, “algorithmic high-frequency AI traders account for more than half of equity shares traded on US markets.”

So, if robots are now flipping burgers, trading stocks, and many other previously human only tasks, where does that leave you?

Well… that depends.

If you have a simple, tasked-based job like flipping burgers, being a telephone operator, a telemarketer, bookkeeping clerk, receptionist, retail sales and other similar vocations… you need to start thinking about your future.

If you want to know the likelihood of your job being replaced by AI, Will Robots Take My Job is a great website to visit to see the likelihood of your job being replaced.

What kind of jobs won’t be replaced soon?

Jobs and business with soft skills, like empathy, connection, relationships and creativity.

In fact, in a recent Fast Company article the say, “We may live in a digital world, but soft skills like communication, problem-solving, collaboration, and empathy are becoming more valued than technology…”

Fast Company goes on to say:

“People skills are more and more important in an era where we have powerful and pervasive technology,” he says. “It sounds counterintuitive, but to beat the bot, you need to be more human.”

This is good news for you.

If I had to bottom line it for you, this is what I would say:

AI will replace and “task” or “widget” type job. The monotonous and boring jobs that require little soft skill engagement and simple repetitive tasks.

And, with every paradigm shift in our world, jobs will go away… and brand new jobs we can’t even imagine will be created.

When America was primarily an agricultural power, over 90% of the workforce was made up of farmers.

When we evolved from the era of agriculture to the industrial revolution, many farming jobs were eradicated in the process, however – brand new industrial jobs were formed.

And the same thing is true with the coming AI revolution. Industrial style jobs will be a thing of the past, and more soft-skilled jobs will be needed for the future.

This means, jobs with purpose, with connection, with human-to-human interactions being prioritized.

Jobs with more creativity and less widget work.

In short: you will have work that is less in the weeds and more in your ability to be creative and relate to others.

If you want to future proof your job or your ability to earn a living… starting a business… going into science, being an artist, being a nurse or coach – anything that is people focused and creative is what you want to focus on.

Here’s a great article from The Guardian about how to pick a job that is “future proof.”

All signs are pointing to a bright and noble future. One with creativity, connection and softskills at it’s core.

And, perhaps the best way to future proof your job and ability to earn money is to discover your Purpose.

No A.I. can replace YOU and YOUR PURPOSE.

You and your Purpose are totally unique, creative and requires those softskills for you to be successful.

If you want to beat AI, beat the bot, beat the robots… you’ve got to become more people-focused, more creative and more human.

The only way to future proof your job or career from A.I. is to discover your Purpose and then bring it to life.

If that’s something you need help with, I can help you.

My book, Claim Your Power, is a 40 day journey to bring your Purpose to life. I’ll coach you to discover your blindspots and hidden blocks, hack your nervous system, clear out old traumas and get clear on your Purpose.

You don’t need to worry about not reading the book, or not following through, I’ve also put together a totally free 40 day book accelerator course to guide you through the book each day.

>It’s all right here.

You don’t need to worry about AI if you’re living your Purpose. You don’t need to worry about job security if you’re living your Purpose. You don’t need to worry about providing for your loved ones if you are living your Purpose.

It’d be my honor to guide you through the process and to future proof your job, your career and your ability to beat the bot.

>Start your journey right here.

Remember to get out there, take action and make your Purpose real.

Your biggest supporter,


How To Make The Most Out Of Hiring A Coach or Practitioner

Coaching, it’s here to stay.

Yes, I am biased.

I am the creator of Functional Life Coaching, which is a brand new form of coaching that combines getting hacking your nervous system and healing past traumas and how to move forward and align with the future you dream about.

Nonetheless, coaching is here to stay.

We live in a world of more and more information. And, we live in a world of more and more specialized information and data.

We all take in so much information each day; it can be overwhelming.

This is where coaching comes in.

Coaches can help you take the information that you have and guide you and help instruct you to make the best changes with the information you have.

I call this process of a coach guiding you to sift through and optimize all the information that’s available to you to produce the best result – Coachification.

Coachification is a trend that hasn’t even gotten started yet, but it will and fast.

Cutting edge start-ups like Viome are using coaches to help their clients breakdown the amazing data of their gut microbiome health.

Functional Medicine Doctors turn to organizations like the Functional Medicine Coaching Academy for coaches who can help their clients implement and stay aligned with their functional Doctor’s recommendations.

Health coaches, business coaches, life coaches and many other niche coaches are emerging to help you stay aligned and get results.

But, how do you get the most out of your coach?

What if you are terrified of hiring a coach?

What if you don’t know how to use a coach the right way?

How can you tell if the coach you are or want to work with is any good?

I’ve worked with tens of thousands of people both in person and online as a coach I’ve spent nearly $1,000,000 on my own personal development and coaches – so I have a unique perspective as both a coach and a client.

Here’s How To Make The Most Of Your Coaching Relationship:

1. Make sure your coach has walked the path. Don’t hire a mapmaker, hire someone who’s walked the terrain, because the map and the terrain are never the same.

2. Investing in coaching does not get a return on your investment the same way stocks do. Your ROI in coaching is your Return on Implementation. When you invest in a stock, you do nothing and hope it goes up. When you invest in coaching, you need to get off your butt and do the work.

3. Google the coach. Find case studies. Past client experiences. There will always be a small number of people who are unhappy with any service. But, look for the majority of online feedback about the coach.

4. Know how to interpret negative feedback about coaches. Every coach has a client or two (or a small % if they work with LOTS of people) who just don’t do the work and then blame the coach. When you are seeking out negative feedback, look at the rest of what someone is posting. Do your best to determine if it’s legit, or just someone blaming a coach for their lack of implementation.

5. Expect regret. It’s common to feel really great about your investment with a coach. And then, a couple days or week later want to quit and get a refund. Don’t do it. This is just your nervous system acting like a thermostat and trying to pull you back to your normal life. There will be fear in the beginning of working with a coach who will stretch you, embrace it and use it to move you forward.

6. You’ve got to think of coaching the same way you think of personal training. It’s a process that takes time. The coach can’t do the reps for you, and you’ve got to stay consistent. Don’t go for the quick aha moments, really focus on small steps daily.

7. Hire the best and don’t trade. Go for expert level support. Invest in the best and do what it takes to stay invested. Don’t trade services. The financial exchange keeps you honest and on your toes.

8. Use the coaching service to the fullest. Don’t hide. Don’t feel bad about asking questions and engaging. You invested your hard earned money into this coach, feel free to jump all in (while making sure to respect any professional boundaries of the coach or the program).

9. Your coach is not your friend. Even though they know you well, you can’t be friends with your coach – that defeats the purpose. Keep a professional boundary with them, and don’t be offended when they keep a boundary with you.

Coaching is a wonderful thing. Coaching can shorten your learning curve, help you implement faster and accelerate your results.

Make sure you pick the best coach. Make the right decision and then work hard to make the decision right by showing up, implementing and playing full out.

You got this.

Remember to get out there, take action and make your Purpose real.

Your biggest supporter,


5 Steps To Stop Undermining Your Intuition

Intuition… it’s perhaps one of the greatest assets available to you.

Following your intuition will pay off BIG TIME. And, not following it can result in some pretty painful lessons.

If you’ve ever said, “I KNEW it!” when you didn’t follow your intuition… you know what I’m talking about.

Here’s the 101 on intuition:

It’s free. It’s always there. And you don’t need more green juice or meditation to access it.

You can’t become “more” intuitive. You ARE intuitive. Just like you ARE a human being.

However, what you can do… is become more aligned with your intuition.

But… how?

Here are five steps to align with your intuition:

1. Stop seeking 100% clarity and needing a perfect plan. Embrace the unclear next step.

2. Start taking action that seems illogical or makes folks around you sometimes say… “What are you thinking?” When you follow your intuition… you’ll be able to say “I’m not thinking… I’m setting my overthinking aside and following my intuition.”

3. Be prepared for the path to be messy and scary. That’s a sign you’re doing it right.

4. Stop looking for an immediate financial payoff. Focus on the long game. You usually don’t get immediate short-term pay offs for following your intuition. In the moment it seems like a crazy idea. However, looking back 10 years… it’ll make total sense.

5. Stay faithful to your intuition, no matter what others say. It’s so easy to let the fear or insecurity of others throw us off our game and sideline us. Be stubborn in your decision to follow your intuition – and always keep kindness and compassion in your heart that doing so may upset others and do your best to love them and meet them where they are, without the need to stop following your intuition because it makes others uncomfortable.

Got it?

Now…. get still… listen and make the illogical, scary, messy, unclear choice… and don’t go back – no matter what others say.

That’s how you follow your intuition. And on the other side of doing it… pure magic.

Remember to get out there, take action and make your Purpose real!

Your biggest supporter,