If you ever have that feeling like you don’t matter… there’s a way to change that.
When you have the experience that your needs don’t matter.
When you ask the question… does anyone see me?
Do I matter?
Or perhaps you’ve given and given, and you’re wondering:
There’s only one thing you’ve got to do.
What’s that? It’s simple… but not easy.
It’s time to put yourself first.
Now, look. That doesn’t mean being selfish.
And I’m not talking about only focusing on yourself.
But, there needs to be more energy, more life force in your cup. You cannot quench your thirst from an empty cup.
The wise thing to do is to take control and responsibility for getting your needs met.
If you aren’t getting your needs met right now, it’s time to stop blaming others for that.
It’s time to slow down and to ask yourself what you need.
What are your needs? What do you need, exactly?
Maybe it’s something as simple as a hug.
Or perhaps it’s quality time. Or maybe you need support in this new life that is forming in front of your eyes.
Perhaps you need some quality alone time to be with your thoughts.
Maybe all you need is to know that they will be there when you call for them.
You need to know that they got your back.
Whatever it is… whatever you need….
The first step is to make sure that you know what it is.
The second step is to give it to yourself, first.
Then, you’ve got to figure out how to communicate your needs to others in a way that is clear and specific.
If you don’t know what you need, then neither will anyone else.
If you don’t know what you need, then it will be impossible for someone else to give it to you… no matter how much they Love you.
So, if you’re feeling invisible or like you don’t matter…
Take your power back and get to know yourself.
What do you need? How can you give it to yourself? How can you take others off the hook for meeting your needs first? How can you set those people up in your life to give you what you need, too?
Most of the time, not getting your needs meet comes from a lack of understanding of what your needs are, how to identify them… and then how to give them to yourself – and then ask for them from others.
What if the people in your life weren’t bad.
Or what if they weren’t meeting your needs simply because they had no idea what they were?
And what would that say about how you’ve taught them to interact with you?
If you want your needs to be met, know thyself.
If you want to feel seen, see yourself.
If you want to matter, then matter to yourself.
From that place, share with others what you need.
Be kind to them. Be patient. Let them off the hook. Let yourself off the hook.
And, start building a life where you can fill your own cup.
Then, nothing can stop you.
And you won’t be let down ever again.
Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!