LOVE… it’s one of those topics that has all kinds of excitement, desire, pain, hurt, confusion and mystery surrounding it.
And let me be clear because LOVE has so many meanings…
I’m talking about romantic love.
How do you get it? How do you keep it? How do you make it last?
For context… let me be clear… Jerry McGuire got it wrong… those three words he uttered ruined an entire generation of romantic expectations.
“You complete me.”
The only “thing” that completes you is your Creator. And… not even that is 100% true… what truly completes you is discovering your purpose and then living it each day.
First, you must know that you are a whole, complete and perfectly made being who does not need another person to complete you.
You are whole as you are.
Also know that the purpose of your life is not to be in a relationship, in fact… it’s the other way around.
When you find your purpose… love will find you.
You see – if you are looking for someone out there to complete you… if you think that someone else if your purpose… then you are setting yourself up for a rollercoaster of emotion and a lot of pain.
Because no person can perfectly love you.
We all have flaws… we all have unresolved hurt and trauma from the past… we all get scared… we all mess up.
And, if the other person is on the hook for your happiness…well that is the fastest way to kill romance.
Many times, people stop doing the very thing that made them attractive in the first place.
They give up a passion, or a goal/career and settle into the relationship.
It’s vital to understand that NO ONE can “make” you happy… except, of course… you.
So… questions for you:
1. Who, outside of yourself, have you assigned the power to make you happy?
2. How are they falling short in making you happy?
3. How can you start to take responsibility for making yourself happy, instead?
4. How can you let them off the hook for your happiness and instead thank them for all the good they do bring to your life?
5. What passions/gifts/goals did you give up that you were pursuing before?
6. What is one step you could take today to pick up your passion and get back to what makes you happy?
These questions are great if you are in a romantic relationship or not.
Remember… the purpose of your life is not a relationship… but a great relationship is an extension of your purpose.
Nothing is more attractive than someone who is doing what they love and is living their purpose.
Today, focus back on your purpose and do what makes you come alive….
…romance will follow.
Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!