I’m just back from a sold out Hay House workshop in Seattle. It was a blast! I never feel more on purpose than when I am leading seminars.
I’ve been rereading Steven Pressfield’s newest book Turning Pro.
It’s a follow-up to his AMAZING book The War of Art.
In this book, Pressfield talks about “shadow” careers. That is to say, things we do that are not our true calling. We get a lot of certainty out of our shadow careers, but not true fulfillment. Imagine the artist who chose the corporate route instead. Or the writer who chose to be an attorney. Or the healer who chose to become an insurance agent. Or the entrepreneur who took the 9 to 5 because it was a more certain path.
The shadow career is a false expression of who we really are. It’s what I’ll call our “fate.” That is to say – the way our life will turn out based on the circumstances of our life from birth. Fate is letting your life be defined by your conditions and by fear.
Fate is not destiny. Destiny is something you create. Destiny has a calling to it. And a beckoning out into the unknown. Our job in life – if we want to be happy, is to step into our destiny, into our calling.
For a long time in my life, I knew I was a writer. I was creative. I had creative dreams. But what did I do? I went into the service of others as a manager in the music business. And I created so much anxiety and unexpressed creative energy that I almost killed myself with drugs trying to cover it up. It was only through an act of GRACE that I was saved from my fate.
And I’ve been on my destiny path for a few years now. It started out terrifying. And it’s still scary, but not as much.
Part of living your destiny and not your shadow career is being able to LIVE in and with uncertainty. It’s about trusting The Uni-verse to have your back. It’s about realizing you have a gift, and your job is to GIVE that gift to the world. It’s about doing what’s right, rather than what’s easy. It’s about turning PRO and showing up – whether you are inspired or not.
Are you living in your shadow career? Are you bound by fate or creating your destiny?
Surrender. I don’t know about you, but January was a month that was butt kicking. So, I’m deciding to start my year over as of February 1st, you with me?
Jenna and I just moved, so between that and running a business and travel, it’s been a hectic month.
My word for today: surrender.
Surrender is an important tool in your personal growth tool belt. At the end of the day, we can try, argue and fight – but we must surrender. Surrender is not the same thing as giving up. It’s about giving into your greater destiny, calling and purpose.
This is a powerful concept because many times we think we have to go it alone. Or that we have to have all the answers. But that’s not the case. You never walk alone, and it’s important to leave space for greater guidance to come into your life.
Once you’ve watched this episode, leave a comment and let me know who or what you are going to surrender today. And – if you’ve had success in this area leave a comment to let us know how you did it.
Together, we can grow into who we are meant to me.
In a recent PEW Study, “A record 40% of all households with children under the age of 18 include mothers who are either the sole or primary source of income for the family, according to a new Pew Research Center analysis of data from the U.S. Census Bureau. The share was just 11% in 1960.”
This is BIG news for women. Our community is 93% women, so this is GREAT news for all of us today. This is something to celebrate.
It’s amazing that just over 50 years ago, only 11% of household earners were women. Now it’s quadrupled to 40%! It’s no surprise to you or me that the women of today are more empowered, kicking butt financially and also really starting to show us men how to do things.
If you’ve been paying attention at all to what’s happening today, the dawn of women’s empowerment is here and here to stay.
But, what’s fascinating is the second stat that the PEW Study found out: “These ‘breadwinner moms’ are made up of two very different groups: 5.1 million (37%) are married mothers who have a higher income than their husbands, and 8.6 million (63%) are single mothers.”
Hold up. 63% of these amazing women are single.
So. Not only are women kicking butt today, they are doing it without a man.
This is a new world that we live in. There are many benefits to this new world. I believe that the feminine has been so suppressed for so long, that the rise of the power woman in today’s world is a necessary part of mankind’s evolution to a more evolved and loving world.
The masculine running wild is not a good thing, and for far too long over the course of human history, the beauty, power and flow of the feminine has been kept down.
There’s just ONE thing that I want to point out.
As awesome as it is that women are kicking butt, and as much as you and I both know that by these stats they certainly don’t need any help from a man – I’m curious, how many of these women are truly fulfilled?
Many women from our generation were raised to believe that they don’t need a man. And by these recent stats, it seems that this belief is correct.
Or is it?
One of the things that’s happened as a result of the newly empowered woman, is that many, many, many women I know and have come into contact with have started to believe that being powerful means just being masculine and suppressing their feminine side.
Now, we all have masculine and feminine energy. And of course women can rock it at work and earn. This is now the new norm.
But, when it comes to ultimate fulfillment at home and in matters of the heart, there is massive gender confusion.
What is rewarded in the modern day women at work – that masculine powerful energy – which allows her to have financial power and freedom, will not work in a relationship with a masculine man.
This problem is pervasive. Women who crave a masculine partner are being rewarded for masculine behaviour in the workplace nad punished for it in their relationships.
I see it every day. POWERFUL and I mean POWERFUL women that inspire the heck out of me, but are so POWERFULLY MASCULINE that they are single and can’t figure out why. The masculine mask keeps them from getting their feminine needs met.
Just because being masculine at work rewards you with financial power does not mean that this same energy will reward you with Love in a relationship with a masculine partner.
For the women’s empowerment movement to come to fruition, there is a slight adjustment that has to occur.
Women must remember that being feminine and free is not weak. Vulnerability and intuition is not weak. And even though they don’t “need” a man, wow – wouldn’t it be great to have one anyway?
We are built for relationship. Connection. Partnership. Not because the other person “completes us” but because we all yearn to share this life with a person, we love and who love us.
I’m not saying there is anything wrong with the single, empowered female. I am the first one to be cheering them on from here. And I also know that we are creatures built for relationship and no amount of power or money can replace or fulfill the heart.
The power of feminine energy far surpasses the power of the masculine. The flow, the intuition, the beauty are necessary parts of life.
My great hope is that as the women of today become more and more empowered, and continue to outearn and outperform many of the men of our time, that they remember that they can be the warrior at work, but if they truly want their king – they must transform into their feminine essence at home.
This is the new challenge of the modern day woman. And I am here FULLY to support this cause.
To all the powerful ladies out there, stay powerful, stay amazing and stay vulnerable – trust me, it looks GREAT on you!
To your empowered Self both masculine and feminine!
If you’ve been on my list for a while, you know that I love leading retreats all over the world.
Just a few short years ago, creating international retreats in mystical places like Bali, Maui or Ibiza seemed like it was impossible.
Why? I felt stuck. And stuck is a nice way to say I felt dead inside. No movement. No momentum.
But, I figured out how to get unstuck, and the results have been game changing for me. And, I’ve been blessed to share this wisdom with thousands of my clients all over the globe.
The results? Game changing.
If you’re feeling stuck, this week’s coaching video is for you. Getting unstuck gets you on the path to living your purpose and from there, synchronicity happens, life opens up, you get into the flow and magic is possible.
Want to get unstuck? Let’s begin.
You see, there’s a reason you’re stuck. And it’s not your fault. After working with thousands and thousands of clients, I’ve seen the same pattern emerge as to why they are stuck.
It doesn’t matter if you want to move forward and create more financial abundance, or if you want to create a business, find a job that you love, create love and passion or have a healthy body.
The mechanism that keeps you stuck is the same.
In this week’s video, I share with you what that mechanism is and how to break free from it.
Learning this one skill has radically transformed my life and the lives of my clients.
Now, it’s your turn. Let’s take that step together today.
After you’ve watched this week’s episode, leave a comment and let me know how you are going to apply this week’s lesson. Without action, nothing will change. Take action by leaving a comment and then begin your process to get unstuck, now.
All my LOVE,
Mastin
P.S. If you know someone who is stuck, forward them this blog. It may just be the exact thing they need to hear to move forward in their life. What a wonderful gift that would be.
A client asked me recently to write about cheating in romantic relationships.
This is a touchy subject because it stings so much. I’ve experienced the pain of cheating first hand, and I can tell you I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
All a relationship is, after all, is two people learning how to trust one another. Trust is the foundation of everything else. Without trust, there isn’t a relationship.
When cheating happens, that trust is shattered. And it’s very hard to get it back (not impossible).
There are different perspectives on cheating. For me, it’s a deal breaker. For my therapist, she has seen many a couple work through it and come back even stronger.
There’s no right or wrong way to look at it, but there is a deeper lesson inside the painful act of cheating that I’d like to speak to.
I’ve worked with many clients who have been cheated on in different ways: sexually and emotionally.
Sexual cheating is when you have sex outside the relationship. It’s the physical act of cheating.
Emotional cheating seems innocent, but in many times, it’s worse. It seems innocent because there is no physical, sexual act. It’s all in your head.
But we humans are energy beings and can feel when things are off. When you are emotionally in love with someone else, or just flirting with them in a major way, this can be more devastating than the physical act many times.
Because intimacy is not meant for someone other than your partner, and this can be a real blow.
After working with so many people who have experienced cheating, there’s a common trend that I’ve noticed.
One question I asked them all is “How long before the cheating started did you feel unsafe in your relationship?”
The answer is always, “a long time” and for many the answer was “I never felt safe in our relationship”.
I believe that our body and intuition can feel a person’s true intentions on this matter long before the physical act happens.
Almost every time, when I asked my clients, “What would have done if feeling safe in your relationship was a priority” – most of the time they tell me that they wouldn’t be in the relationship in the first place, or they would be setting the bar higher.
So, I’m going to say something that might seem a little crazy and perhaps controversial – but bear with me for a moment. Keep an open mind.
What if being cheated on is a wake-up call to trust and value yourself? What if the physical act of being cheated on is an external reflection of how you’ve cheated on yourself.
That is to say, you knew something was off, you didn’t feel safe, you knew you deserved better: but you did nothing.
What if ultimately the spiritual lesson of cheating is this: trust thyself.
What if you made feeling safe more important than anything else?
Many people who I work with admit that in a relationship where’s there’s cheating, safety is not a common experience. It doesn’t have to be some huge overt level of feeling unsafe; it could be subtle.
But, there’s always a disturbance in the force. And it is we who need to get smart and trust that.
I’m hoping that you aren’t reading this blog right now and thinking, “Great, so I’m to blame for them cheating?”
That’s not the takeaway. Human beings are responsible for their actions. This blog does not justify or make right what happened, but it can help you learn the lesson.
Trusting yourself, being firm with what you need in a relationship and what you deserve, these are all very valuable lessons. And the sting of cheating comes bearing the gift of this lesson if we can learn it.
Question for you: what’s the most important part of any relationship?
It’s not about quality time, date nights, what you have in common or if you are both paleo.
There’s one part of any relationship (romantic or otherwise) that is the *key* to unlocking love, respect, feeling seen, feeling heard and getting your needs met.
What is it?
Communication.
When Jenna and I lead our relationship retreats or seminars that teach on the topic of relationship, one of the reasons why we can save many relationships is because we understand that at the core of every relationship problem is one thing: communication.
We help people feel heard and seen by their partner and help their partner feel heard and seen as well.
It doesn’t matter if you are single, in a relationship or want to have a better relationship with any person in your life – you’ve got to master this one communication tool.
After working with thousands of people, we’ve been able to see certain patterns that create unnecessary anger and resentment, and we can take the leap today to help you avoid this pattern and create communication flow in all your relationships.
Here’s your plan for today:
1. Know that any relationship you’re in that is having issues is probably not from a lack of love, but rather a lack of communication. 2. Love yourself for knowing #1. 3. Watch my video 4. Leave a comment below this blog and let me know how you are going to implement what you’ve learned today and how this new “aha” will improve the quality of your relationship(s). 5. Pass this blog on to anyone you know who could use some help in this area of their life. You might just change their life.
Make it a great day and know that you can have love, empathy, connection and safety in your relationships. When you learn how to communicate – you set yourself to get your needs met and to also meet the needs of those whom you love the most.
All my love,
Mastin
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Hi and welcome to Claim Your Power TV with your host Mastin Kipp, where each week I guide you to live your purpose with passion! This week I’m going to share with you a communication tool that has saved countless relationships.
We get people coming to us for all kinds of issues and problems that they want us to solve. And one of them is relationship problems, relationship issues. They’re usually romatic, however, relationship issues can be relationships with bosses, partners, romantic partners, friends – it doesn’t really matter. But we’ve had people come to us who were on the brink of divorce and said, “This retreat or this seminar or this coaching program is our last ditch effort. If we can’t make it work here, we’re done. Our marriage therapist is telling us to get a divorce. Mastin and Jenna, can you help?”
I know that’s like a tall order. It’s like oh my gosh and feels like a lot of pressure, but what we’ve found is that primarily, especially in masculine/feminine relationships, male/female relationships – this is not just for heterosexual relationships, this is also for lesbian and gay relationships. There is a masculine and a feminine quality in ALL relationships. Those energies attract each other. But the communication tip is this:
Do you really understand what the other person is saying and what they mean by what they say?
You might think that men and women, masculine and feminine creatures, are speaking the same language – English, right? But they’re not. Masculine people can use the exact same words as feminine people and mean something completely different.
So here’s a really great example we use all the time with our clients. These two words: I’m fine. If you’re a feminine person and you say, “I’m fine,” what does that usually mean? Does it mean you’re fine? Nope! It means, “Hey you! Ask me more questions. I had a bad day,” or something like that. That’s the deeper meaning. However, if you ask a masculine person, “How are you doing?” and he says, “I’m fine,” what does he mean? He literally means I’m fine. There’s no deeper meaning, there’s no need to psychoanalyze; he’s fine.
But here’s what’s interesting. It’s the same words, isn’t it? I’m fine. However, completely different meaning because masculine/feminine communication has two different modalities of working. The feminine communication is about connection, about curiosity, and not about solving problems. All the feminine wants is to be asked questions, to go deeper, to really connect with and mirror her. So what happens is you have a feminine person who is going so deep in connection and the masculine person tries to interrupt with trying to solve a problem, but that’s not what the feminine person wants. The feminine person wants you to go, “Tell me more. What do you mean by that? Go deeper, go deeper, go deeper. Tell me more, tell more more, tell me more.” And then to mirror back what she’s saying, “So what I’m hearing you say is this, this and this.” And then to identify with it and to say something like, “You know what? That must be really frustrating. That must be really difficult. What can I do to help?”
If you can understand the meaning of feminine communication is connection, to not interrupt her communication until she asks you about you and turns it back over, reflect back what you’re hearing her say and then empathize with her and say, “That must be frustrating. That must be hard. What can I do to help?” it’s going to dramatically change your relationship.
And the same thing is true for the masculine communication. When you ask a masculine person questions, they give literal responses. And so it’s really important for you when the masculine person says something after you ask a question, what you say is, “So what do you think about this?” and he says, “I think x, y and z.” And then your response will be, “So what I heard you say was…” and repeat back what you heard them say and go, “Is that true?” to clarify because our brains, the masculine/feminine, male/female brains are wired differently. There is different meaning with different brains even though they use the same words.
So it could go something like this: The feminine person says, “Hey, where would you like to go for dinner?” and the masculine person says, “Hey, can we talk about this later? I’m busy right now.” And the feminine person might get all defensive and say, “Well why can’t we talk about it now?” and then there’s a fight. Versus, “Hey honey, when you said, ‘Can we talk about it later?’ what I heard you say is I’m not important. Is that true?” And of course the answer is no, but it helps you out your feelings.
So if we can start to understand the communication differences between the masculine and the feminine and that the masculine communication is logical and literal and the feminine communication is illogical and communication-based, GAME CHANGER!
And if you can mirror back what you’re hearing them say with empathy versus trying to inject with a fight, it is a game changer for your relationship. This advice has SAVED marriages! I am not exaggerating. This advice has saved marriages, it’s saved relationships, and it will bring you tremendous joy and prevent massive amounts of pain if you can learn to practice this advice.
So you might be watching this video over on YouTube or over on Facebook. I invite you to come on over to TheDailyLove.com and below this video leave a comment. How are you going to communicate moving forward with your masculine/feminine partners? Who can you share this information with? Sometimes your partner doesn’t want to hear it from you. Send them this video. I will tell them for you, okay? Share this video. But let me know how you’re going to communicate differently. If you’re the masculine partner, how are you going to say ‘tell me more’ and empathize? And if you’re the feminine partner, how can you really honor what they think and reflect back, “Hey, what I heard you say was this. Is it true?” without taking it personally because he thinks in a very logical way. This communication style works for heterosexuals, transgenders, gays, lesbians – it doesn’t matter. There is no segregation here. It’s the way in which communication works.
Also, please feel free to subscribe to us on YouTube so that you can get immediate updates as soon as I upload a video. Please head on over to TheDailyLove.com and enter your name and email address so that I can give you email updates that I only send through email. And most importantly, and as always here at Claim Your Power TV, my deep wish is for you to get out there, take action and make it real. I’ll see you next week!
This belief is stopping you from unlocking your unlived potential and holding you back from living your purpose.
For us to live our purpose, for us to get unstuck, for us to live the life we know deep in our guts that we’re meant to be living – we must conquer fear.
However, conquering fear doesn’t mean getting rid of fear. We must learn to see fear in a new way.
Did you know that there are two types of fear?
There’s a good kind of fear and a bad kind of fear.
I break it all down in this week’s episode of Claim Your Power TV.
The good fear means we are coming closer to living our purpose. The bad fear means that we are holding back our unlimited potential.
I’m here to assist you to bring to life all the dormant potential within you and help be a voice of encouragement for you to take the leap and find courage.
When you learn the difference between these two types of fear (good vs bad) – you take massive control over your life. And you have powerful clarity that will help you understand the exact next steps you can take to get unstuck and get about the business of living your purpose.
Not knowing the difference will keep you stuck on the hamster wheel while life just passes you right on by.
Let’s learn the difference between good fear and bad fear.
Knowing this one key distinction could be the exact thing you’ve been looking for to create a true and lasting breakthrough in your life.
And after you’ve discovered the difference between these two types of fear, leave a comment and let me know:
1. What kind of fear bas been stopping you up until now 2. Now that you know this, what is your next action step? 3. How will taking this courageous step move you forward in your life and create positive ripple effects.
I love hearing from you. Your stories about the new decisions and directions you’re taking inspire me. I’m here to help you get unstuck and start thriving.
Let’s do it.
Oh, and if there’s anyone else you know that’s stuck and could use a good “pep talk” – send them to this blog. You might just change their life. And it might be easier fo them to digest when it comes from me instead of you.
Make it a great day.
And remember to get out there, take action & make it real!
All my love,
Mastin
P.S. Have you dreamed of travelling to Bali? Would you like me to be your personal mentor to help you find your purpose? If you said yes to either of these questions, then click here to apply for our Enter the Heart retreat in Bali this December 4th – 14th. We aren’t doing this retreat in Bali next year, so this is your chance to join me. Also, spaces are almost totally fully, so apply now.
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Hi and welcome to Claim Your Power TV! I’m your host Mastin Kipp, where each week I will guide you to live your purpose with passion! This week we’re going to talk about how to conquer fear.
So I’ve got good news and I’ve got bad news for you.
The good news is you certainly can conquer fear. The bad news is fear is never going to go away. And in fact, it’s recognizing that fear is never going to go away that helps you conquer it.
There’s this idea in the spiritual community that fear is this dark force that we must avoid like Darth Vader or Voldemort. But the truth is, if you look at the way our brains are wired in the limbic system, fear is an automatic, nervous system response to uncertainty. And the strange dichotomy and joke, the divine joke here is that to live your purpose, to step out and to be big and to grow and to expand and to grow beyond what you currently are as far as circumstance requires that on a daily basis you face your fears.
So the way in which you conquer your fear is to stop expecting yourself to not be afraid.
You’re going to be afraid. That’s the reality. I can tell you that before I step on a stage, before I write a book, before I travel, before I do anything that brings me closer to my purpose, there is fear. So the way we must learn to conquer fear is to refrain fear and recognize that there’s actually two types of fear.
The first type of fear is survival fear. Survival fear looks like this: I’m walking down an alleyway and there’s a person with a weapon. In survival fear, it’s necessary to run. Or if I’m in the military in a combat zone, it’s necessary to be afraid to stay alive. So there are moments where when our survival is on the line, fear keeps us alive. The problem is our brain is binary and cannot tell the difference between survival fear and what we call irrational fear.
Irrational fear is if I live my purpose then I’ll die or if I speak up and become my authentic self no one will approve of me or if I decide to finally lose the weight no one will love me because I show my true self, or whatever the irrational fear is. And what I spend most of my time doing is helping my clients distinguish between survival fear, which is necessary, and irrational fear, which is just the brain doing what the brain does which is trying to keep you alive. So the brain, the limbic system, is challenged by your spiritual growth because it’s scary to grow spiritually. When you have new spiritual insight, when you have new spiritual awareness, all of a sudden there is new stuff you’ve got to do. Maybe you’ve got to break up with someone. Maybe you’ve got to disagree with someone. Maybe you have to redefine your power with your family of origin. Or maybe it’s time to start a business. Or maybe it’s time to finally stop saying you’re big boned and realize that you’ve got to stop binging on Netflix and eating pizza at night. Whatever it is, you can certainly live your purpose. You can certainly grow into who you’re meant to become.
But you’ve got to look at the difference between survival fear and irrational fear.
Here’s a tip for today, a coaching tip for you. Make a list of all the things you’re afraid of. Make a whole list. It could be “I’m scared of spiders” and “I’m scare that if I start my blog no one will open my email” or whatever the fear is. It doesn’t matter. Make an entire list and ask yourself is this irrational fear or is this a survival fear? So if you’re afraid that you’re not going to make your rent every month, well that’s a necessary fear because we obviously have to make our rent every single month. And before you can live an abundant life on your own business, you’ve got to figure out how to make money doing that. So of course there might be a job you keep until you start to live your own business. But make a list and start to understand is this irrational fear or is this survival fear?
And here’s what I want you to do: If it’s survival fear, understood. No worries. All good. Make sure to really address those so that you stay alive. And then on your irrational fear side, I want you to go straight into them. Call bullshit. That’s what I want you to do. Sorry for the language, but call bullshit on your fear and go straight into them because the truth is, not everyone is going to approve of you, not everyone is going to be happy by your individuation, not everyone is going to celebrate your new spiritual awareness. Do not let that stop you. It is an irrational fear. If you knew who walked beside you at all times, if you knew how supported you were spiritually, if you knew that there was a Divine presence, a Divine creator urging you to live your purpose, urging you outside of your irrational fear you would never question yourself again. But my friend, the journey is about knowing that for yourself. It’s easy for me to say.
And the other thing is you might be thinking, easy for you, Mastin. You have this blog and your wrote a book and you’ve been on SuperSoul Sunday, etc. but the thing is, the way in which those things happened were by following the advice I’m giving you right now. You see the master. Someone who’s further ahead of you who has faced those fears, has gone through it. And it was just as difficult for me when I was couch surfing. It was just as difficult for me when I was in corporate America and wanted to switch as it is for you before you switch. And so I’m here with this beacon on the other side saying, “Come on over. It’s okay. Lean on faith. Lean on your Creator. Lean on the Divine.” There is a way for you. And the way that you conquer fear is to anticipate it and then to tell the difference between survival fear and irrational fear. And here’s what you’ll find – 99% of what you’re afraid of is irrational fear.
So my deep wish for you is that if you’re watching this video over on YouTube or over on Facebook, come on over to TheDailyLove.com and leave a comment below this video and let me know have you been afraid of survival fears or irrational fears and what are they? What specifically are your irrational fears? And here’s the most important thing: what is your plan of action to go straight into those irrational fears and eradicate them? And to anticipate that every time you grow, there are going to be more irrational fears. The quality of your success, the quality of your ability to live your purpose is directly related with your ability to conquer and understand your irrational fears because most of your fears are irrational.
Also, remember you can subscribe to our video over at YouTube and please come on over to TheDailyLove.com, enter your name and email address so that you can get your weekly updates that I don’t share anywhere else. My deepest wish here at Claim Your Power TV is that you take all this information, you get out there, take action and make it real. We’ll see you next week!
Before we get to this week’s coaching video “The five core elements of spiritual growth” – I want to share big news with you.
Drumroll….
Daily Love TV is now – Claim Your Power TV.
You may have noticed that I am winding down “The Daily Love” as you’ve known it. We’ve stopped sending daily emails. We’ve stopped featuring other bloggers. And now, emails come from me, rather than “The Daily Love” or “Daily Love with Mastin Kipp”.
I want to thank you for being a special and important part of my life. For opening my emails. For reading my blogs and watching my videos. And then taking what you’ve learned and applying it to your life.
I do what I do for you.
Over a year ago, a mentor of mine who I respect in a big way told me, “Mastin, I want you to pick up your staff and comfort me as a teacher.”
Her words have resonated deep in my Soul ever since. I knew that meant that I had to change things up. And, to be honest, I’ve been terrified.
I didn’t want to let you down. I had gotten so used to sending daily emails. I love our bloggers. I love the Daily Love brand. And I thought that if I quit doing it the way that I was doing it, everything would end.
But, deep within my Soul I knew it was time for evolution and transformation. And I’ve been making these changes slowly and timidly this year.
Another small step in that direction is renaming Daily Love TV to Claim Your Power TV. Our new tag line is “Weekly guidance to live your purpose with passion.”
When I got still and asked myself what I do and who I am…
I realized I am a teacher and a guide.
And what I love most is bringing people home to themselves and their version of The Divine.
And, truth be told, I was terrified to own this fact. I shunned calling myself a teacher. I shunned calling myself a guide. I hid. I didn’t want to go too “woo woo”.
Until my mentor called me out and told me, it was time to up my game.
So, I’m declaring it here – I am a Spiritual Teacher.
I made the decision to make this change on August 30th, 2015 when I heard that Wayne Dyer had passed away. He was gone too soon. And I realized I didn’t have another moment to waste.
As this transition continues, I will be shutting down TheDailyLove.com and moving everything over to my site (details coming soon).
My intention moving forward is: to bring mentorship, guidance and compassion to a community of people who value love, growth, courage, empathy, and spirituality. To continue to share my experience – the ups and downs, and to be a Light on your path and a fellow student by your side.
This is not an ego move. This is a deep call from my Soul.
I realize that not everyone will agree with or like this new direction. And that’s okay. What’s true is what we either grow together, or we grow apart.
My hope is that we can grow together because I feel like we are just getting started.
There are five core elements to spiritual growth that helped me come to this decision and all important decisions I’ve ever made.
If you feel stuck, if you feel static, if nothing is moving in your life, these core principles will get you on the fast track to living a life of purpose.
When you apply these five core spiritual principles in your life, it will require that you make courage your new normal.
And, what’s so cool – you don’t have to do it alone. I’m here for you and so is our entire community.
Remember to leave a comment and let me know how you are going to bring courage into your life today.
Here’s to claim your power. Here’s to following your gut. Here’s do doing it afraid. Here’s to staying close to your Soul.
I’ll see you soon.
All my love,
Mastin
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Hey there and welcome to the new Claim Your Power TV with your host Mastin Kipp, where each week I will guide you to live your purpose with passion! This is a great, exciting re-brand for us. Claim Your Power is our new brand moving forward. Something that I’m so passionate about is teaching you how to live your purpose, and there are so many facets and so many elements of living your purpose that I thought it was vital to change the name of this offering to you so that we could go even deeper on helping you live your purpose.
This week I’m going to help you uncover the five core elements of spiritual growth. There are many elements to spiritual growth, but there are five core elements that I want to share with you today.
The first core element of spiritual growth is vision. You have to have a vision for where you’re going. The vision for where you’re going comes from that still, quiet place inside of you. You don’t want to get your vision from comparing yourself to others. You don’t want to get your vision from what your family or friends think you should do or what magazines or news say you should do. Vision comes from within. So you have a vision, you have imagination, you have something that you want to create in life. The first core element of spiritual growth is tapping into your vision.
Which brings me to the second core element of spiritual growth, which is listening. But who and what do you want to listen to? Here we want you listen to your heart, to your soul, to your higher wisdom, and that requires getting still. They say that meditation is listening to God or the divine and prayer is talking to God or the divine. In order to have a vision, you have to listen to your heart and to your soul. Without listening, you’re going to be misdirected and misguided all over the place. You’re going to say, well where should I go? Should I listen to this person or that person? A lot of times we see clients who have to go to 10, 20, 30 other people to get permission before they actually make a decision. So what we want you to do is have a vision that comes from listening to your heart.
And then the most important thing, the third stage of spiritual growth – and this is a big one, this is huge – is taking courageous action, which is action in the face of fear. A client recently asked me, “Mastin, how can I tell the difference between a loving choice and fearful choice because I’m scared?” And here’s the truth. When you’re listening to your soul, when you’re listening to your heart, you WILL be afraid because you will be stepping out into uncertainty. So it’s not a question of love versus fear, but of expansion versus contraction. So when you’re making a decision and ask ‘is this my heart, is this my soul?’ get still. Go inside and ask myself, am I going to feel expanded by this choice or contracted by this choice? And there’s the thing – if you feel expanded and scared, you know that that is your heart and your soul talking to you. It’s a vital piece of spiritual growth.
And then after we take courageous action, this is the fourth core element of spiritual growth – faith. Faith in yourself. Faith in the divine. Faith in God. Faith that you never walk alone. And faith that the challenges that come, the setbacks that come are not failures; they are temporary defeat. There’s a massive difference between permanent defeat and failure and temporary defeat. The truth is that if you’re going to live your purpose, if you’re going to grow spiritually, you will certainly come up against temporary defeat. That is absolutely something that you will experience. But it’s only failure if you decide to stop and quit. Otherwise it’s temporary defeat and it requires the faith to recognize that within that temporary defeat is an opportunity of equal or greater measure than the temporary defeat that you’re going through and that requires faith.
I personally believe that what we want, what’s put in our heart and soul to desire to create in life is purposely placed out of reach in this lifetime so that we may become the person it takes to realize our purpose and to realize our goal. And so, when you have setbacks, when you’re terrified, when you feel like there’s no way, it’s vital to have faith because you need faith to go with your courageous action because there will be fear and fear is calm with faith and knowing that no matter what comes your way there is a spiritual lesson. And when you learn the lesson you can progress and move on and it is inevitable that you will reach your goal.
And then the final core element of spiritual growth is service. If you’re growing just for yourself, if you’re growing just for your own satisfaction and approval and ego you are not growing spiritually. There’s a massive difference between being rich and having lots of money and being wealthy where you feel fulfilled and abundant every single day. And chances are if you’re watching this program, you’re interested in wealth. You’re interested in feeling abundant. You’re interested in feeling fulfilled. And when you make your life about dedicating yourself and your purpose, not just to yourself but to a larger cause greater than yourself that is what produces spiritual growth.
So to recap, the five elements of spiritual growth are vision, listening to your higher wisdom and to your heart, taking courageous action, living in faith and serving other people. If you can focus on these five core elements of spiritual growth and make your life a dedication to embody these core elements, your life will change massively and dramatically and quickly.
It is my great wish that you take this information and embody it and not just watch this video and then go, “That was nice,” and scroll on down Facebook or YouTube or wherever you like to be, but to really stop and ask yourself, what is my vision? When can I schedule time to get still and listen? And what specific courageous action could I take, what thing could I do that I’m scared to do? And how could I have the faith to know that as I take this action and I hit that temporary defeat that’s sure to come, how can I have faith in the middle of that knowing that there’s a spiritual lesson there? And then finally, how can I make my mission about being selflessly of service to other people? Really think about this. Take this to heart. Don’t make this just another couple minutes that you’re watching on the internet. Really allow yourself to take this in and apply it. I promise you that if you do, your life will change in miraculous ways.
Now you might be watching this video over on Facebook or over on YouTube. I’m going to encourage you to come on over to TheDailyLove.com and below this video leave your comment. Let me know what has happened when you’ve stepped out on faith? What has happened when you’ve got still and listened? What has happened when you got that vision and you were dedicated to it? Or if you’re scared, let us know how and why. The comments below are an incredible place to get support. Also, remember you can subscribe to this video on YouTube so that you can get immediate updates when I post new Claim Your Power videos. And also remember to subscribe to our weekly email so that you can get updates that I don’t send out anywhere else. My most important wish here at Claim Your Power TV is that you get out there, take action and make it real. We’ll see you next week!
Do you crave it? Did you have it and lose it? Do you feel stuck in your relationship where before you felt free? Or maybe you went through a rough breakup and are timid about getting into another relationship.
Here’s the good news – there is a spiritual lesson in every romantic relationship.
If you are single, you can learn the lesson from your previous relationship, or if you are in a relationship, you can learn the lesson and go deeper.
Want to learn the spiritual lesson of your relationship? That’s what this week’s training is all about.
Love and passion in a relationship make our lives come alive. A fulfilling relationship makes your life worth living. It takes you deeper. It heals you. It brings your heart out.
My therapist once told me after I had read hundreds of self-help books, “Congrats Mastin, now if you really want to grow, get into a relationship.”
BOOM – what powerful advice.
There is a spiritual lesson, let’s learn it together by clicking here.
After you’ve watched this week’s coaching video, please leave a comment below the video and let me know the spiritual lesson that is up for you right now in your life.
When you learn this lesson, everything improves. It’s my great honor to share with you how to learn the spiritual lesson in your relationship and bring you closer to fulfilling love, today.
Make it a great day!
Mastin
P.S. Speaking of romantic love, my friend and mentor Marianne Williamson has an amazing training coming up called The Aphrodite Training. Click here to enroll.
*Do you ever feel so exhausted from work you don’t even have the
energy for a relationship?
*Do you ever feel the woman you need to be at work is somehow at
odds with the woman you need to be in love?
*Do you ever feel that even if you attract love, you don’t know to
sustain it?
* Are you looking to integrate within yourself the spiritual seeker, worldly achiever, and woman who wants to be loved?
Leave it to Marianne to host a Women’s Seminar that totally addresses what women are going through today: what often feels like a contest inside us between a woman who wants to achieve (Athena) , and a woman who wants to be loved (Aphrodite).
Hey there! I’m Mastin Kipp, best-selling author of the book Daily Love: Growing into Grace and creator of Daily Love TV. Welcome to this week’s episode. This week we’re going to talk about romantic relationships, but a little bit of a different tweak on them.
Did you know that there is a spiritual message in your romantic relationships? When you look at the first three to six months, you fall in love but you don’t really fall in love. What you fall in is chemical soup, right? You fall into dopamine. You fall into oxytocin, epinephrine, norepinephrine, serotonin – all the neuro-chemicals and all the peptides and all the different hormones of the body just kind of flood together in this chemical soup. And you feel that sort of magical, mystical, incredible feeling.
The reason why is two-fold. One, because you’re given an experience of what divine enlightenment or the experience of God consciousness or whatever that might be, you’re getting that experience of what that feels like temporarily. And also the biology is designed to make sure that we’re bonding and having sex so the species continues. But the veil eventually drops on all relationships and you see the person for their flaws, and the things that used to make you really love this person are the things that now really piss you off. And instead of leaving, unless you’re being physically abused – in which case, get out immediately – there is an opportunity for you to learn the spiritual lesson.
Here’s what we’ve learned. We all have childhood wounds that we’ve been through, and what’s fascinating is we tend to draw to us people who are of the opposite energy in many ways. So what that means is that if we are the quiet one, we’re attracted to the loud one. Or if we’re the insensitive one, we’re attracted to the sensitive one. And so if we don’t begin to embody the traits in our partner that we admire, we will start to push them away. The reason why you’re attracted to someone is not just physical, chemical and pheromonal; there’s also a spiritual lesson for you. There are pieces of your childhood that need to be worked out. And you get the opportunity to see this beautiful example of someone in front of you who has the elements that you’re missing.
So, you can make them wrong for it, you can argue and try to change them – that never works – or you could really start to take responsibility for your side of the relationship and go, hmm, what’s my spiritual lesson here? Maybe I’m being asked to be more sensitive or maybe I’m being asked to have a greater sense of self or maybe I’m being asked to have more empathy or maybe I’m being asked to open up and be more vulnerable or maybe I’m learning how to set more boundaries. Because the thing that attracts you to someone will be the thing that pisses you off and will be the reason why you break up, unless you embody it.
And here’s the thing, deal with it now. You can leave the relationship and then go on to another relationship, but the thing is you’re just going to keep having that sort of chemical soup in love over and over and over again. The veil will always drop. You’ll date the same person in different shoes. So if you’re in a relationship now and you feel stuck, use this as an opportunity to learn the spiritual lesson because you’re going to learn it one way or another. You’re going to find yourself in the exact same position in the future that you are in right now. So you get the opportunity to dive deeper and really embody what you’ve learned.
So without ego, without needing to be right, without trying to step into the sort of hierarchy of you’re right/they’re wrong – because remember, in a relationship there’s not a sick one and well one. You’re both sick and you’re both well and you’re both going to take responsibility for your side of the street. So really ask yourself, what’s my partner teaching me? Can I be more courteous? Can I be more loving? Do I need to set more boundaries? Do I need to speak up for myself? Do I need to be more sensitive? What attracted you to that person, what’s pissing you off about that person and honestly, how could you embody it? This advice has saved so many relationships. So really think about this. If you know someone who’s in a relationship right now and they’re having some strife, send them this video. It can be very eye-opening for them to get this type of information.
You might be watching this video over on Facebook or over on YouTube. I’m going to invite you to come on over to TheDailyLove.com and really think, what is the spiritual message in my relationship beyond the in-love feelings, beyond the oxytocin? What is the spiritual message? How am I being asked and offered the opportunity to grow here in deeper and deeper ways? Leave a comment below this video and let me know because this is a very powerful lesson. If you don’t learn it now, you’ll learn it in the future, so let’s skip all the heartbreak, let’s skip all that stuff, and help you learn the lesson now so that you can go to the next level in your spiritual life and also in your romantic life. Also, please feel free to subscribe to us over on YouTube so that you can get instant access to whenever we upload a new video. And most importantly, and as always here at Daily Love TV, remember to get out there, take action and make it real. We’ll see you next time!
Patience is a virtue – but when does patience turn into procrastination?
It can be hard to tell the difference. And procrastination is a dream and purpose killer.
Living your purpose requires action. But it’s also vital that you get into the flow of guidance that is coming your way. This is one of the great paradox’s of life.
A Course In Miracles and Wayne Dyer have said:
“Infinite patience produces immediate results.”
We must be patient with our path. We must show up each and every day ready to serve, willing to surrender and able to let our heart and soul lead.
And yet, at the time time – action is the bridge between your dreams staying a wish and turning into reality.
Tony Robbins says:
“Massive Action is the cure all.”
So, my dear one, it is a dance. Between action and patience. Working hard and surrender. Living your purpose and allowing your purpose to live you.
Most Truths are a paradox – meaning, both are true. Learning how to take massive action while being patient is a fine art and required skill to live your best life.
Let me show you how.
Make it a great week.
All my LOVE,
Mastin
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Hey there! I’m Mastin Kipp, best-selling author of the book Daily Love:Growing into Grace and creator of Daily Love TV. Welcome to this week’s episode. This week we’re going to talk about the difference between stillness and procrastination.
I get asked a lot, “You know, Mastin, I want to meditate, I want to be still and I want to listen to that intuitive voice inside. How can I tell the difference between that and just simply procrastinating?”
So here’s how you tell the difference.
When you’re still, you feel relaxed and your body is relaxed. When you’re procrastinating, you feel tense. And on top of that there’s a sense of “I know I should be doing this” and there’s usually fear associated with procrastination. The reason why we procrastinate is because a part of our body, generally our nervous system, the limbic system and our brain, thinks that if I do this new behavior I’m going to die. That’s the simplest explanation I can give you. You associate change, transformation, trying something new with uncertainty, which is scary, which produces a sensation of death in the body, and so we procrastinate. We put off things. We like to do things that seem easy in the moment and then we put off and put off and put off and put off.
Meditation and stillness is a very powerful tool.
One of my favorite things to say is that prayer is talking to God and meditation is listening. So when you’re still, you get downloads, you get clarity on next action steps you’re supposed to take or whatever the message or spiritual message or directive is. And your goal once you meditate and get still and listen to that inner voice is to put what you’ve learned into action, put that wisdom into action. You want to start to get the wisdom, get the next step, get that next directed step, that intuitive voice, that heart-centered, divine voice inside and actually start to apply it.
So the reason why we get still is not to be still, because life is movement and “movement creates momentum” as my friend Adam Cobb says. So we want movement. Life is all about moving. If your heart stops beating and is still for too long, that’s called death, right? So we want movement in life, but we don’t want chaotic movement. We don’t want to just feel like we’re running around like a hamster on a wheel.
So the way in which we get off that hamster wheel and really get still is we meditate. I like to meditate at least twice a day, 20 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes at night. It helps me get really still and really calm and in touch with that intuitive voice. But then I take that download, the intuition that I’ve gotten and start to apply it in my every single day life and that’s been a very important skill that I’ve learned and cultivated over time.
So stillness and meditation does not equal stasis in your life.
Stillness should produce momentum. Stillness should put you back on purpose. Meditation is a way to align with your higher wisdom and your higher self. And then embody it through courageous action. Procrastination – you know when you’re doing it. You know you should stop doing it. And if you need a kick in the butt, here’s your kick in the butt to stop that procrastination so that you can get about the business of living your purpose and really bringing your specific, unique gift to this world.
Have you procrastinated in the past? Are you avoiding getting still because there are feelings that you don’t want to feel? Or, are you spending so much time in meditation that you’re not doing anything in implementation? One of my favorite things to say is 1% meditation, 99% implementation. There is such a thing as spiritual bypass through meditation where all you do is meditate and meditate and meditate but you don’t apply or get out there and get courageous in your life. Meditation fuels the courage. Meditation fuels the direction and helps you get in touch with your higher wisdom. Apply it. No longer procrastinate. You’re not going to die, I promise!
You might be watching this video over on YouTube or Facebook. I’m going to invite you to come on over to TheDailyLove.com and below this video let me know why you’re going to stop procrastinating now and when you’re going to start meditating and acting on that intuitive knowing of what you’re next step is.
In the comments below, let me know when and how and why and why now you’re going to be doing this. Also, feel free to subscribe to our videos on YouTube so that you can get instant updates and access to the next coaching video when I post it. And most importantly, and as always here at Daily Love TV, my great wish is for you to get out there, take action and make it real. We’ll see you next time!
