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Is discovering your life’s purpose the missing piece to your success?

It’s normal in the course of a human life to try for a goal and fall short.

It could be a business goal; it could be a romantic goal, a wellness/health goal, a family goal or a financial goal.

One of the greatest tensions in human existence is the tension between the life we desire and our current circumstances.

This life, after all, is a process of becoming.

From the moment of our conception, we are in the process of becoming.

First, we become an infant, then a child, a teenager and then an adult.

As we age, we become (hopefully) wise, and as we approach death, we are in the process of becoming Spirit again.

Birth, life, death and rebirth… this is the cycle.

The aim of life is to be happy right where you are.

Now, what I just wrote was a simple sentence… but let me say it again because it’s important…

The aim of life is to be happy right where you are.

Happy in birth, happy in life and happy in death. Happy in rebirth.

And while our mortal body dies once in a lifetime, our dreams can die daily.

Our hopes can die daily. Our goals can die daily. Our vision for a better future can die daily.

The path of success is to learn to navigate the deaths of meaningful things in our lives with Grace and a solid mindset.

The teachings of the Buddha remind us that the root of suffering is attachment.

This isn’t to say that you cannot or should not Love.

This isn’t to say that you should not form relationships.

Or get your hopes up.

However, the aim of life is to increase our flexibility.

In the discipline of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), it’s known that the person who is the most flexible will emerge successful in the long run. In NLP, there are things called “Pre-suppositions” which are assumptions that the discipline makes about the nature of life.

One such pre-supposition is that of flexibility, which is as follows:

“The person with the most flexibility will have more choices and therefore have the most influence in any system. A choice is better than no choice, and more choices are certainly better than less choices. Similarly, if what you are doing is not working, do something else. This highlights the need to change one’s behavior and do something else, again and again, if need be, until the desired outcome is achieved. In other words, one must be able to change readily to meet new circumstances.”

So, if you have set a goal and it has not come into being yet, consider that you must become more flexible in your approach.

Consider that perhaps your mindset is too rigid, and you are too attached to a certain outcome, that, if released, would clear a path to a greater and greater outcome.

When your body is flexible, you are able to move with more Grace and ease.

When your mind is flexible, you are able to achieve happiness, fulfillment, and success with greater ease.

It’s so easy to be attached to past hurtful or disappointing outcomes and assume that your future will be the same as the past.

Yet – the future will only be the same as the past if we bring the past into the future.

How do you ensure that you do not bring your past into your future?

You make peace with it in the present moment.

And the fastest way to do that is to discover your life’s purpose.

When you know your life’s purpose and bring it to life, everything changes.

The only difference between someone who is overwhelmed, stuck, frustrated with a lack of results, not experiencing abundance or fulfilling work/career and someone who has an abundant life, meaningful relationships, fulfilling work and is able to provice security for their loved ones…

Is that the person who is living an abundant life has discovered their life’s purpose and are living it each day.

When you discover your life’s purpose, everything changes.

Abundance comes…

Fulfilling work comes..

Security for your loved ones comes…

You know your priorities and what to focus on…

The aim is to be flexible in your approach and dedicate yourself to discovering your life’s purpose and then living it each day.

If you don’t know what your life’s purpose is, or would like help discovering it or re-fining it… or if you feel like your purpose is in progress but isn’t quite alive yet…

Reply to this email and let me know.

If I get enough replies to this email, I’ll put together a training for you on your life’s purpose… how to discover it… how to refine it… how to bring it to life.

Is that something you want?

If so, just reply to this email and let me know…

Remember – be flexible in your approach.

Be mindful of your past limiting beliefs that do not belong in your future.

And enjoy the process of birth, life, death, and rebirth – each phase of existence has a gift.

And, when you know your purpose, you can enjoy the ride in true abundance.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you Mastin!

As always, remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Show your love, lead by example

I am so blown away by the love of this community.

I’ve been reading many of the survey responses to discovering your life’s purpose and how to bring it to life.

What’s so apparent is how much you love the people you love.

Your children. Your parents. Your peeps.

Answer after answer that I read showed how far you would go to make sure that your people are taken care of.

Stephanie said:

“I feel obligated to maintain a steady income to support my kids. I tell myself that when they are out of the house, then I can figure out what I want for myself.”

Stephanie, I want to talk to you today.

And… anyone else who feels like their purpose isn’t quite here yet.

Let me get this out upfront:

The BEST way to take care of your Loved ones is to live your life as an EXAMPLE of what’s possible.

Your only true obligation in this life is to discover your purpose and live it each day.

When you consider what action to take, what next step to make… and what the priorities of your life are…

It’s important to pay attention to the questions you are asking yourself.

Perhaps one of the greatest questions you can ask yourself when it comes to taking care of your loved ones is this…

“How can I best set an example of what’s possible?”

You see, your loved ones watch what you DO, far greater than what you say.

Your children model your behavior, not your words.

So, this means to take the best care of your loved ones; you’ve got to take the best care of yourself.

Do you want your children to discover and live their purpose?

Then discover and live yours.

Do you want your loved ones to be able to have financial security for the future?

Then tap into the abundance that comes when you bring your purpose to life.

Do you want to take great care of your father/mother and help them retire and have a great quality of life?

Then bring your purpose to life.

Discovering my purpose is what allowed me to have enough funds to pay for rehab for my mother, which was a life-saving moment.

Discovering my purpose is what allowed us to buy a house for loved ones when their home was condemned due to mold.

If you are waiting until they “grow up,” “move out” or for “one day when” you think things will get better… you are not taking the best care of your loved ones.

You are not setting an example of living your best life.

In order to take the best care of your loved ones, you must grow, you must stretch… you must discover your life’s purpose and then dedicate yourself to bringing it to life.

By bringing your purpose to life, you set the example for your children or your parents.

By finding your purpose, you open up the abundance that you know is meant for you, but seems to be alluding you.

By discovering your purpose, you show your loved ones you mean business.

Do not delay your dreams.

Do not set an example of living on the “horizon” for “one day.” They are watching you and they are taking their ques from you.

Whether you know it or not… you are a leader and they are watching your every move.

Instead of saving for a rainy day, invest in a sunny future. Invest in yourself.

Invest in your purpose.

Make discovering your purpose your #1 intention.

Let no excuse get in the way.

Let no limiting belief stop you.

Do whatever you need to do to overcome the fear/trauma/hurt and worry from your past…. and make today and every day forward a day where you are dedicated to brining your purpose to life.

Do not allow any past hurt/trauma/pain or fear stop you. Instead, consider that the trauma of your past is a prerequisite for your purpose.

You were being prepared for THIS.

When you bring your purpose to life…

That’s when abundance comes.

That’s when you have true personal freedom.

That’s when you create true security for your loved ones.

That’s when you set an example for everyone you love about what’ possible.

Within you is power, greatness and the ability to be a role model of what living your purpose looks like.

Have you been focusing on what’s most important… or just being distracted by what’s in front of you?

Make if your intention to make what’s in front of you most important – that is discovering your purpose and bringing it to life.

The only difference between someone who has true freedom, who has work and a career they love, who experiences a truly abundant life… who takes care of their loved ones and gives them the ultimate security…

And someone who is distracted, overwhelmed, not feeling free, waiting until “later” and always worried if they will be able to take care of their loved ones is just one thing…

Those who experience true freedom, abundance and the security to take care of the people that they love know their life’s purpose and are living it each day.

If you’ve tried a lot of different things and it hasn’t worked out, or if you thought you knew what your purpose was and lost it… or if you aren’t sure you have a purpose… or if you know what your purpose, but it’s in process and not quite here yet… that’s okay.

If you really love your peeps, then get about the business of bringing your purpose to life.

Don’t hide behind your loved ones and use them as a reason why you can’t risk/grow and become more.

You owe it to them and to yourself to take the leap and jump into the life that’s waiting for you.

It’s time to remove the hidden blocks keeping you stuck, accelerate your results and bring your purpose to life.

Not sometime in the future… but right… NOW.

You’ve got this. And I’ll be right there with you.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Path to discovering your life’s purpose

As Mark Twain said, “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born, and the day you find out why.”

When you find out why you were born, that’s when you discover your life’s purpose.

Most of our problems in life are a symptom of not knowing, or living, our purpose.

Imagine for a moment a scenario….

That… you were intentionally made, by a Loving Creator for a special and unique Purpose.

You came to earth, experienced fear and mild to intense trauma and in that process forgot Who you are and Where you came from.

Then, because you wanted Love, safety, and security… you decided not to listen to your Higher Wisdom, to doubt that you even have any intuition and to focus on things that bring you financial security, but not fulfillment or joy.

Because of this…. you feel like you have FOMO (the Fear of Missing out), but aren’t even sure what you’re missing out on.

You just know that there’s something more.

You can feel it, but you can’t quite put your finger on it.

You have brief moments of remembering Who you are and Where you came from.

Maybe it’s an inspiring moment in a film, or when some great moment is achieved in sports, the Olympics or in a book that you read.

But, because life is filled with an overload of content/information and distraction, you quickly forget again.

And, over a period, the Light within you that is your Purpose gets dimmer and dimmer.

It never goes out, but it does get small enough to forget that it’s there. So, you’re not being used for your Purpose.

You’re not in alignment with why you were born, you are ignoring your intuition, and you are putting your life on hold.

Maybe you have kids, or a job that helps you just “exist” or a pet.

And you love your kids, your pet and you are grateful that you can put food on the table… but something is missing.

Your relationship is void of passion.

Perhaps you and your “twin flame” are just roommates now.

Or… you decided not to get into another relationship because you wanted to focus on your career…

But your career is just to pay the bills.

It’s not purposeful work. You start to want more.

You want to help your parents retire and be taken care of for the rest of your life.

You want to set a better example for your children because you notice that they have picked up some of your bad habits.

You have a favorite Instagram account that you pretend is your life.

Those images of Europe, Asia and living a life of time/money/travel freedom… it’s your daydream.

You pretend that that is your life.

But… these moments are fleeting…

A day comes where you notice you are having a hard time paying attention to your Survival Job.

You feel anxious. Nervous.

So, you go to someone who can write you a prescription to feel better.

Chances are… they don’t scan your brain… and they don’t do an inventory of your life choices…. they don’t ask if you are living your Purpose.

They just pay attention to the symptoms.

Anxious. Inattentive. Nervous. Sad.

They label you “bipolar,” “ADD” or “depressed” and give you a pill or two.

You take the pills.

For a moment, you have hope… maybe this will help me feel better.

But soon, those pills don’t work.

And now you’re hooked on them and need them just to feel normal.

You take on the names that those pill writers called you.

You are now just a bipolar/ADD/depressed person who needs to take pills to be normal.

You smile to strangers, but on the inside… you wish that they could see that you’re in an existential crisis.

But, you have to keep it together. You can’t be vulnerable. You can’t be real.

The self-help teachers told you that when you talk about bad things, negative stuff or your problems that you will “attract” more of them.

So, you stuff them down. You get a new peer group of best friends you always make you feel better:

Caffeine, Alcohol, and Sugar

You put on some weight at first. But then more weight.

Why?

Because that “one drink a week” has turned into a nightly affair.

You wake up hungover and take more pills and more Caffeine just to have enough energy to get in the shower.

One day, you arrive at your job… and it hits you…

Maybe this is as good as it gets. Maybe this is all you deserve. Maybe you’re just here to “exist” or “survive.”

All that hogwash about purpose, it’s just for special people.

You unfollowed your favorite Instagram account because they posted a photo from your dream travel destination… and you decided that it’s just a pipedream.

And… you keep your head down and just keep existing.

All the while, trying to convince yourself that you don’t know what your purpose is… that you aren’t sure.

And that the only way you would even admit that you have a purpose or could life a life of purpose… you would need a clear financial plan in place first.

You are treating your purpose (and God) like your own personal Jerry McGuire….

you scream: “SHOW ME THE MONEY!”

But, you can’t see how you could possibly make money living your purpose, so you keep telling yourself you don’t have one, or that you don’t know what it is.

Eventually… life gets worse. It shrinks.

A few bad things happen in a row that makes you question whether there is a God at all.. and why would such a God allow these kinds of things to happen.

And, eventually… life gets smaller and smaller and smaller… until you arrive at an important moment in your life.

A moment will come when you will be stirred by unexpected events.

A part of you will die, and you will begin to search for the elixir to bring this part of you back to life.

You will seek this elixir in friends, lovers, enemies, books, religions, foreign countries, heroes, songs, rituals, and jobs.

But no matter where you look, the treasure will evade you.

All will seem lost.

You will lose all hope that this magic potion even exists.

It will be the darkest of nights, and the promise of certain death will lead you to the abyss of despair.

But, staring into this abyss, you will begin to see the dim light of your own illumined soul.

Your radiance will transform the abyss itself into the elusive elixir of life.

And for the first time, you will realize that all the while… it was your own Light that you were searching for.

Then you have a massive AHA moment.

“My Purpose is the most important thing for me to find.”

You realize that there is no perfect map with a blueprint and checklist of how you will make money.

You realize that your Purpose is something that you discover, bit by bit, a little each day.

You realize that the self-help gurus were wrong… fear is not the opposite of Love… Fear is a sign that you are getting closer to your Purpose.

And, when you realize this… you realize that no pill can give you purpose, no wine can give you purpose… and no amount of chocolate can give you purpose.

And then… in a flash… you realize that THIS is the second most important day of your life.

You realize that you were born for a unique Purpose… and that you just need to take a page from Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz… you need to gather yourself… gather your Heart… your Brains… and your Courage… and realize that you’ve always had the power.

You don’t have literal red slippers to take you home, but you have something even better…

The redemption of each new moment to make a new choice.

And on this day, the second most important day of your life… you choose to discover your Purpose… bit by bit… piece by piece. And from that moment forward… you return Home to your Heart… to your Creator… to discovering your Purpose a little more each day.

You realize that those weren’t panic attacks, they were messages from your Higher Wisdom to get moving.

You realize that you had anxiety because you weren’t doing the very thing you were born to do.

You realize that anyone who is not living their purpose but instead forcing themselves to do boring/repetitive work that isn’t fulfilling would have ADD, too.

You realize each day that you don’t have a problem focusing on the things you LOVE to do, in fact, you wish that life would slow down because when you are in the Zone of your purpose… life and time is flying by.

You realize that the real cause of your problems wasn’t being bi-polar, or depressed or having ADD…

You realize that you’ve been misdiagnosed. You didn’t have ADD… you had PDD.

Purpose Deficit Disorder

And you realize that ADD/Depression/BiPolar and most of those other labels where covering up the real issue.

Maybe you’re still on your pills, but you realize that they are there to help FUEL your purpose… but pills are NOT your purpose in and of themselves.

You realize that Bi-Polar was just trying to contain your uniqueness and creativity in a box… and now you are unleashed…

You realize that part of your de-pression was re-pression.

So you start to express yourself.

You realize that your ADD wasn’t that at all.

You realize that you’re a creative genius whose been focused on boring tasks.

You have a hard time paying attention to what doesn’t matter, but when you are in your zone of Purpose, your attention is locked in.

And… in the end… you are grateful for the journey… because now you have empathy… experience… and an understanding of the suffering that exists on this planet… and from this moment forward… you dedicate yourself to healing the wounds within you… connecting with your Higher Power each and every day… and helping others heal their suffering.

And in that moment, you realize… everything you went through… has meaning.

And you’re grateful for all of it.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Is the drive to just survive killing your life’s purpose?

Do you know what keeps you blocked from the success, personal freedom and life of abundance you want?

Not just fear… Not just “you”… Not just time… Not just money…

Let’s be more specific, shall we?

There’s just one thing that’s actually blocking you:

Survival Patterns™

Or… you can call ’em SP’s for short. SP’s keep you stuck.

SP’s like… distraction, procrastination, perfectionism…

and even talking about your SP’s more than you should…

even the awareness that you have SP’s can become an SP…

because then you are focused just on how many SP’s you have.

When you know you have an SP.. your job is to begin the process of healing it.

You don’t break your arm… and then just talk about how broken it is… and how you broke it… over and over again.

You get your butt to the doctor’s office, and you get a CAST. Your SP’s need a CAST called… your life’s purpose.

When you know your purpose, your why… everything starts to change… your drive to overcome and heal your SP’s kicks in.

You take all that self-help knowledge… all that “information” and it drops down into practical application… into real life.

In fact… you might “think” you know something, but you don’t really know it until… you’re DOING IT.

Knowledge without action is the same thing as not having the knowledge in the first place.

Knowledge is simply potential energy… it’s not until your activate your knowledge does it become kinetic or ALIVE.

So, if you are reading the books… GOOD.

f you are doing your meditation… GOOD.

If you are working on yourself… GOOD.

But let’s take an honest look at where you are in your life right now.

If you’re procrastinating, or in perfectionism, or playing small, or distracted all the time and not following through…

Your Survival Patterns™ are winning.

And here’s the thing… Survival Patterns™ create other survival things…

Survival jobs… Survival relationships… Survival romance… Survival income… Survival food habits…

Meaning… your job, relationships, income, and food habits are “just enough” for you to “survive”.

But, they are not at the standard that you see yourself.

When you discover your purpose and bring it to life… you upgrade from a survival job… to a fulfilling and abundant vocation.

When you discover your purpose… you upgrade from a survival relationships to a Soul Tribe of people who are supporting you.

When you discover your purpose… you upgrade from survival romance (aka roommates) to true love and passion.

When you discover your purpose… you upgrade from just survival income… to an abundant income that allows you to provide security to those that you love + the time/money freedom to travel and create unforgettable experiences.

When you discover your purpose…. your food habits are not just there to survive.

You raise your standards from sugar/wine and chocolate (or caramel popcorn) to food that fuels your purpose and gives you more energy.

To survive in this world is a miracle.

To thrive in your purpose in this lifetime is something you must earn.

Vision boards alone won’t do it.

To thrive in your purpose… you need to increase the amount of intentional pressure you feel.

Now… stress and pressure are two different things.

When you’re just surviving, you feel stress because at any moment you may not be surviving.

But, when you apply true intentional pressure in your life, that is when you grow and demand more from yourself.

The pressure to show up in bigger and bigger ways.

The pressure to forgive the unforgivable.

The pressure to show up and add value to the world.

These are good things.

Diamonds are forged under intentional pressure… the body gets sick under chronic stress.

If you’re going to be stressed by the day to day of survival anyways… you might as well focus on the tasks that create pressure and a similar sensation as stress.

It takes just as much energy to be stressed by thinking about how you will pay for food next week and how you will become more and live your purpose.

You might as well use your stress wisely and transform it into pressure that turns you from coal (survival) into a thriving diamond of purpose.

Are you ready to trade your surival life for an abundant life of purpose?

Then reply back to this email and let me know how you will get started living your purpose and bringing it to life.

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This is your chance to come to Los Angeles and connect with me in person… and your whole Soul Tribe of peeps who are ready to support the person you are becoming.

And notice… are those Survival Patterns™ already chiming in with all the reasons why you can’t?

What if you can… find the time… reschedule… make this and yourself a priority?

You… your purpose and your loved ones are worth it.

And… reply to this email and let me know your next step towards bringing your purpose to life.

Let’s partner up to bring your purpose to life.

Are you ready to become a diamond?

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Dont Let Narcissism Stand in the Way of Your Progress

You may not know it at this exact moment, but if you’re procrastinating, getting easily distracted or trying to have a crystal clear picture and plan of how everything is going to work ahead of time, there’s a lot more at stake then you realize.

You cannot possibly know what tomorrow brings.

You cannot possibly have a perfect plan.

You cannot possibly have clarity before you take action.

None of this is possible upfront.

That’s why discovering your Purpose, bringing it to life and thriving in your Purpose is a daily adventure.

It’s a discovery process.

When you were born, your parents didn’t need to know what you would be doing on this exact day in your life to be able to love you, guide you and encourage you to grow.

Do you know what’s blocking you from making progress?

The fact that you think you need a rock solid plan to bring your Purpose to life… that will ensure a specific return on your investment… that is what is stopping you.

It turns out that all the advice we were told as children was given to us under the assumption that all we are is meant to survive, to get by, to exist.

Yes, survival is important. However, we are meant for more.

You are meant for more.

Which means, you’ve got to cultivate greater resilience and faith.

Survival is not where you are meant to stop.

Survival is a launch pad for your purpose.

And, what’s at stake is that if you do not get started now, then nothing short of your purpose and why you were born is at risk.

Do not look forward in fear, assuming the worst.

Do not bring single focus to your demise.

Do not assume the worst.

Start to cultivate thoughts of success. Of faith. Of resilience and of action.

You are not an entrepreneur because you bought a course on how to build a business, but never finished.

You do not have time/money freedom because you follow someone on Instagram who does.

You are not cultivating a spiritual practice by just wearing Lululemon, mala beads and having a vision board.

Your self-care routine is just polished up narcissism if you are not in service to others.

Your consciousness is not based on how many followers you have, but on how honest and loving you are.

Your maturity as a spiritual being is not about how much wisdom you can share with the world, but about your ability to fall in love with and heal your own wounds.

Trade green juice for compassion.

Trade mala beads for forgiveness.

Trade comparison for just helping other no matter your follower count.

Trade spiritual entertainment for small courageous action steps.

Trade being great for being real.

Trade the life you share on social media to the life you share in private moments.

Trade your “plan” for a daily match off with fear.

Then – you will be on the path of your purpose.

Until then, it’s just living vicariously through others.

But, this is your life. Your adventure.

It’s your time to dive in and do the work. Starting right now…

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Take the brakes off and create faster results

It’s common to head towards a goal to start… and stop… and start… and stop… and start… and stop again.

Why do we do this?

The answer is simple, but not easy…

A part of you believes that success is a threat.

Pure and simple.

The work is to uncover why.

I call this the root cause.

You see, all of us have this human nervous systems that’s designed to keep us safe.

Growth represents a threat.

So, when our heart/soul/gut/dreams move us forward into a bigger, more purposeful life – our nervous systems cautions us from moving forward.

Because the future is unknown, so are the threats.

We assume the worst. We feel anxiety in our bodies. We procrastinate.

We try to do it perfectly to prevent possible death.

We get distracted by the latest trending cat photo.

Yet – no matter how much we try to plan, to control and to scheme the perfect plan, it never works out.

We can never know the future.

So, we try to improve our lives through various personal development models or approaches.

And maybe they work a little.

But, we keep taking one step forward and one step back.

Why?

We didn’t find the cause that’s holding us back.

We all have the root cause… something happened in our past that we assigned a meaning to that keeps us safe.

It could be significant like trauma, or your father could have been 10 minutes late picking you up from school.

It doesn’t have to be massive, or it could be.

Either way, when you find the root cause, you take a massive leap forward towards living the life of your dreams… a life of purpose.

What you’ll come to find is that in many ways, your trauma/cause was a is a prerequisite for your purpose.

To bring meaning, fulfillment, and purpose to our lives, we must learn how to bring meaning to the pain… and turn that pain into a way to serve others.

This is the path of freedom.

If you don’t know the root cause, you’ll start/stop/start/stop over and over again.

Not knowing the root cause is like having the emergency breaks on… and trying to move forward… you’re going to burn out before you’ve gone too far.

It’s time to find the root cause and release the emergency break so that you can start to accelerate on the highway of your life’s purpose.

If you don’t know the root cause or how to find it… no worries.

Dedicate yourself to the discovery of the root cause that’s responsible for believing that success is a threat and let’s put an end to the start/stop cycle and create lasting results.

It’s time to get off the hamster wheel of feeling stuck and onto the highway of your purpose!

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Do you have more than one purpose?

Perhaps one of the most important questions you can ask is…

“What is my life’s purpose?”

And – the answers can be confusing. Like… really confusing.

I’ve always pondered why some of life’s most important questions seem to be unanswerable or unknowable.

What’s my purpose? Is there a God? Why did this happen to me? Why do bad things happen to good people?

There can appear to be no answers to these questions.

And – there appear to be no answers that we agree on.

One of the reasons I decided to create Claim Your Power LIVE is because I wanted to offer a simple solution and answer to one of life’s most important questions… the question of purpose.

You see, when you discover your purpose, you realize why you were born.

You become aware of your usefulness to the world and to your Creator.

Abundance flows.

But, if you do not know your life’s purpose, it’s easy to step into scarcity and lack…. never living up to your full potential.

One of the reasons why I’ve seen many people miss their purpose is because of a question they ask over and over again but never seem to be able to answer.

“Do I have more than one purpose?”

I’ve had over 40,000 students go through my free or paid training for my Claim Your Power course.

This question is a massive question.

And let me shine some light on this for a moment with what I’ve learned.

Purpose is not what you think.

We set goals to feel an emotion.

When we go for something… a new job, a business, a relationship, more money, losing weight, etc… we are not just going for the outcome, we are shooting for the emotion that we believe the goal will bring us.

Weight loss may bring us the emotions of self-respect, energy or aliveness.

Romance may bring us passion.

Money may bring us safety and freedom.

So, ultimately, purpose is an emotion that you cultivate within yourself and then share with others.

You’ve got to admit that you are in control of your life, your destiny, and your purpose and that it’s up to you to do the work to bring your purpose (aka your ideal emotions) to life.

You have very specific emotions that you’re aiming for.

So, you’ve got to find out what they are.

For me, my top two emotions are belonging and excitement.

When you discover your emotional targets, you begin to discover your purpose.

And, the good news is.. the emotional targets that your aiming for do not change over time.

I pretty much want to feel like I belong and am excited all the time.

But, what does change are the circumstances and the physical outcomes or goals that we pursue to hit our emotional targets.

So, when I am asked if you have many different purposes, the answer is no.

But, we must go deeper.

There will be many different circumstances or outcomes that will help you hit your emotional targets over time.

For example, when you are five years old, you have different goals than when you are 18, 35 and 70.

However, the emotions remain constant targets. So, when you think you have many purposes, what you are really asking is… have I outgrown my old goals and outcomes and I am unclear of the new goals/outcomes that will help me to hit my emotional targets.

So, the quest for purpose is really the quest for emotion.

That’s why it’s an internal process, far more than an external pursuit.

And, perhaps the most important part of this journey is to identify the blocks that are preventing you from moving forward and creating new goals, taking new action and expanding your growth.

 

You have one unique purpose, to hit your ideal emotional targets.

What has to happen for you to do that will change over your life.

Stay in rapport with your Soul and you will never be led astray.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Get your needs met

Chances are you love to help other people. Chances are when there’s an opportunity to help others you’re one of the first people to jump in and try to lend a hand.

I love this about you. I do.

Being of service to others is extremely valuable… spiritually important and just a kind thing to do.

BUT – there is an underbelly of helping others that goes undiagnosed… and can cause long-term, unintended harm.

And that underbelly is resentment… anger and frustration.

Many times… the dark side of the “giver” explodes after a period of time not feeling heard/seen or like they matter.

This isn’t a good look. When you give, and give and give… and don’t get anything in return… this can be the end of relationships… and turn what was a good idea/love affair or friendship into bitter endings.

Of course… there’s two sides to every situation, but for today… I want to speak to YOU.

I want you, dear giver, to understand… that many times you don’t get your needs met because….

Well… you don’t make them known.

And, chances are you don’t make your needs known… because you don’t know what they are or how to ask for them.

So, the first thing you’ve got to do is take ownership that you’ve played a role in not getting your needs met.

Then… there’s good news.

When you get frustrated… when you feel like this… there’s hope.

The bigger opportunity is that your life’s purpose is knocking on the door.

You’re being asked to find out what you need… and give it to yourself.

And then… have the courage to ask others for it as well.

And create relationships that bring you energy, rather than drain your energy.

If you want to get your needs met…. find your purpose.

And then dedicate yourself to bringing it to life.

When you know your purpose… when you bring it life… that is when you will get your needs met.

At first, it can feel selfish to ask for what you want… it might feel strange… it might feel out of place.

But, over time… as you embrace your purpose and begin to get your needs met in your relationships… this will become the new norm.

The truth is… the people in your life want to give to you… they want to support you… they want to help you… they want to pour the love on.

BUT – they can only do it if you let them in… if you make your needs known and ask for them.

Choose healthy people to open up to.

Ask for what you need… and then open up and let them in.

It is in giving that we receive… it is also in receiving that we give.

Your purpose will free you…

Open up a little today and let life support you.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Why “finding your passion” can be so hard

Finding your passion is hard work.

It’s something that can be super elusive and feel like it’s never within reach.

Why?

Two main reasons:

1. You are focused primarily on yourself.

2. You are trying to find an answer that is a moving target.

Cal Newport, Georgetown Professor and author of Deep Work and Be So Good They Can’t Ignore You says this…

“If you want to love what you do, abandon the passion mindset (“what can the world offer me?”) and instead adopt the craftsman mindset (“what can I offer the world?”).”

You see… your passion is something that has the wrong assumption… it assumes that the world should owe you something… when in reality… the name of the game is adding value to the world.

Furthermore… finding what lights you up… and what can serve the world is a discovery process.

There isn’t a perfect answer that will give you 100% certainty about what you passion is or isn’t.

It’s a discovery process.

Trying to figure it out too fast takes away the journey of becoming.

And, it’s impossible to know the answer before you get started.

The better question to ask is…

What is my purpose?

When you discover your purpose, you allow your purpose, and the emotional targets you’re trying to hit, to guide you.

Take your focus off of needing a perfect plan.

Take your focus off of just making yourself happy.

Dedicate yourself to living your purpose… and focus on just taking the next step.

Your journey to passion, to power and to purpose is a one-step-at-a-time process.

You cannot know every step before you take them.

All you can know… is take your next step.

When you know your purpose, when you dedicate yourself to making the switch from emotional debt to emotional wealth… that’s when you take your power back.

And, when you live each day by just taking the next step… you will be guided to your passion.

Make it your aim to find the balance between living your purpose, giving the world what it needs and finding your passion.

Decide to be in the present moment, and do not worry about the future.

Instead… just take the next step in service to your purpose…

trust that you are guided and then get out of your own way.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

How To Get The Love You Want

LOVE… it’s one of those topics that has all kinds of excitement, desire, pain, hurt, confusion and mystery surrounding it.

And let me be clear because LOVE has so many meanings…

I’m talking about romantic love.

How do you get it? How do you keep it? How do you make it last?

For context… let me be clear… Jerry McGuire got it wrong… those three words he uttered ruined an entire generation of romantic expectations.

“You complete me.”

The only “thing” that completes you is your Creator. And… not even that is 100% true… what truly completes you is discovering your purpose and then living it each day.

First, you must know that you are a whole, complete and perfectly made being who does not need another person to complete you.

You are whole as you are.

Also know that the purpose of your life is not to be in a relationship, in fact… it’s the other way around.

When you find your purpose… love will find you.

You see – if you are looking for someone out there to complete you… if you think that someone else if your purpose… then you are setting yourself up for a rollercoaster of emotion and a lot of pain.

Why?

Because no person can perfectly love you.

We all have flaws… we all have unresolved hurt and trauma from the past… we all get scared… we all mess up.

And, if the other person is on the hook for your happiness…well that is the fastest way to kill romance.

Many times, people stop doing the very thing that made them attractive in the first place.

They give up a passion, or a goal/career and settle into the relationship.

It’s vital to understand that NO ONE can “make” you happy… except, of course… you.

So… questions for you:

1. Who, outside of yourself, have you assigned the power to make you happy?

2. How are they falling short in making you happy?

3. How can you start to take responsibility for making yourself happy, instead?

4. How can you let them off the hook for your happiness and instead thank them for all the good they do bring to your life?

5. What passions/gifts/goals did you give up that you were pursuing before?

6. What is one step you could take today to pick up your passion and get back to what makes you happy?

These questions are great if you are in a romantic relationship or not.

Remember… the purpose of your life is not a relationship… but a great relationship is an extension of your purpose.

Nothing is more attractive than someone who is doing what they love and is living their purpose.

Today, focus back on your purpose and do what makes you come alive….

…romance will follow.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!