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The challenge of the modern day woman.

In a recent PEW Study, “A record 40% of all households with children under the age of 18 include mothers who are either the sole or primary source of income for the family, according to a new Pew Research Center analysis of data from the U.S. Census Bureau. The share was just 11% in 1960.”

This is BIG news for women. Our community is 93% women, so this is GREAT news for all of us today. This is something to celebrate.

It’s amazing that just over 50 years ago, only 11% of household earners were women. Now it’s quadrupled to 40%!  It’s no surprise to you or me that the women of today are more empowered, kicking butt financially and also really starting to show us men how to do things.

If you’ve been paying attention at all to what’s happening today, the dawn of women’s empowerment is here and here to stay.

But, what’s fascinating is the second stat that the PEW Study found out:  “These ‘breadwinner moms’ are made up of two very different groups: 5.1 million (37%) are married mothers who have a higher income than their husbands, and 8.6 million (63%) are single mothers.”

Hold up. 63% of these amazing women are single.

So. Not only are women kicking butt today, they are doing it without a man.

This is a new world that we live in. There are many benefits to this new world. I believe that the feminine has been so suppressed for so long, that the rise of the power woman in today’s world is a necessary part of mankind’s evolution to a more evolved and loving world.

The masculine running wild is not a good thing, and for far too long over the course of human history, the beauty, power and flow of the feminine has been kept down.

There’s just ONE thing that I want to point out.

As awesome as it is that women are kicking butt, and as much as you and I both know that by these stats they certainly don’t need any help from a man – I’m curious, how many of these women are truly fulfilled?

Many women from our generation were raised to believe that they don’t need a man. And by these recent stats, it seems that this belief is correct.

Or is it?

One of the things that’s happened as a result of the newly empowered woman, is that many, many, many women I know and have come into contact with have started to believe that being powerful means just being masculine and suppressing their feminine side.

Now, we all have masculine and feminine energy. And of course women can rock it at work and earn. This is now the new norm.

But, when it comes to ultimate fulfillment at home and in matters of the heart, there is massive gender confusion.

What is rewarded in the modern day women at work – that masculine powerful energy – which allows her to have financial power and freedom, will not work in a relationship with a masculine man.

This problem is pervasive. Women who crave a masculine partner are being rewarded for masculine behaviour in the workplace nad punished for it in their relationships.

I see it every day. POWERFUL and I mean POWERFUL women that inspire the heck out of me, but are so POWERFULLY MASCULINE that they are single and can’t figure out why. The masculine mask keeps them from getting their feminine needs met.

Just because being masculine at work rewards you with financial power does not mean that this same energy will reward you with Love in a relationship with a masculine partner.

For the women’s empowerment movement to come to fruition, there is a slight adjustment that has to occur.

Women must remember that being feminine and free is not weak. Vulnerability and intuition is not weak. And even though they don’t “need” a man, wow – wouldn’t it be great to have one anyway?

We are built for relationship. Connection. Partnership. Not because the other person “completes us” but because we all yearn to share this life with a person, we love and who love us.

I’m not saying there is anything wrong with the single, empowered female. I am the first one to be cheering them on from here. And I also know that we are creatures built for relationship and no amount of power or money can replace or fulfill the heart.

The power of feminine energy far surpasses the power of the masculine. The flow, the intuition, the beauty are necessary parts of life.

My great hope is that as the women of today become more and more empowered, and continue to outearn and outperform many of the men of our time, that they remember that they can be the warrior at work, but if they truly want their king – they must transform into their feminine essence at home.

This is the new challenge of the modern day woman. And I am here FULLY to support this cause.

To all the powerful ladies out there, stay powerful, stay amazing and stay vulnerable – trust me, it looks GREAT on you!

To your empowered Self both masculine and feminine!

All my LOVE,