“I suffer from Procrastination and fear.”
That’s what Jennifer shared with me.
When I first read this….
I thought to myself… whenever I hear words like “I suffer from…” typically words that follow are words like:
– A heart condition
– High-tone deafness
And YourDictionary.com uses the words “suffer from” in the following sentence:
“The illness your father suffers from is the same I suffer from.”
I was a little surprised (which rarely happens, because I’ve seen a lot of feedback and coached thousands of people)…
And I couldn’t believe Jennifer used the words “suffer from” to describe procrastination and fear?
First – let me say here… because this is the written word after all… there is no judgment of Jennifer.
Girl – I feel you.
The reason I was so surprised is because I’ve never seen (in over 10 years of doing this) someone describe procrastination or fear that way.
And, I really get you Jennifer… I get how it can feel to be stuck in procrastination and also in fear.
But, I have great news for you.
Procrastination and fear are not terminal illnesses that you have to suffer from anymore.
Do you know what they really are?
They are just patterns. That’s it. Nothing more.
And they are a specific kind of pattern that I happen to be an expert in.
Those patterns are called Survival Patterns and they exist for a good purpose.
And Survival Patterns can be changed.
You see, your whole body is designed to keep you safe and alive.
Your nervous systems thinks that if you stay in fear… you’ll be safe.
Your nervous system also procrastinates because if you keep procrastinating… you’ll be “safe”.
But… I know you want more out of life than to just be safe.
You want to thrive… to life life to the full.
You wrote to me Jennifer that your financial situation “sucks”.
I want you to consider something you may not have considered before – and see this as a second opinion.
Perhaps the reason why you don’t have as much money as you want is because you do not believe you are worthy of allowing money to support you.
And, perhaps you believe that you aren’t enough to be seen for what you really want to do in your vocation and career.
Perhaps you bought into the lie that you are not worthy… and do not deserve support… and that as you start to take action in the direction of courage to do what you love, to add value to others and help solve problems… to open up and be seen… that you will find that you will be more than financially provided for.
True abundance is falling in love with problems to solve in the world… opening up and allowing yourself to be seen in the processs and then allowing yourself to also receive back all that is good for your great deeds.
So, here’s the deal: you have to ask yourself if you are willing to allow yourself to receive support… and help.
And… are you willing to receive back all that is good, in the form of money, love, connection and praise?
Your hurt and your trauma that you believe is the cause of your financial situation is also a prerequisite for your Purpose.
Your job is to heal your pause hurt and then get busy serving others to do the same.
Jennifer, in the feedback form I asked “What’s one thing I could do to improve your life in the next 30 days” and you wrote…
” Reach out to be about my worries.”
Your wish is my command Jennifer.
I’m so proud of you. And so grateful for you.
And so excited for what’s next for you.
Poverty is not about how much money you have, poverty is a mindset and a belief set.
Seek out people around you who are doing well. Hang with them.
Focus on serving others. Read inspirational material. And most importantly do one thing you are afraid of each day.
Jennifer, you are seen… you are heard and girl… you are loved.
I’m so proud of you and thank you for writing in.
Because the true key to abundance is to discover your Purpose and then bring it to life.
You don’t suffer from procrastination and fear… they are just Survival Patterns that are keeping you safe.
But ships aren’t built for safety dear one, they are built to brave the storm.
You got this, Jennifer. Do it now. Do it messy. Do it afraid.
Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!