Do you ever wonder how successful people seem to be able to attract what they want?
Are you confused about why what you want hasn’t manifested?
The simple truth is this: People who attract what they want are not pushing what they want away.
Let me explain.
People who are attracting what they want in their life don’t have some magical power that you don’t have.
They just have different habits and behaviors. They have mentorship.
When you are primarily focused on what you don’t have, then what you don’t have will keep showing up.
What does focusing on what you don’t want look like?
It looks like chronically blaming others, your environment and outside forces for why you don’t have what you want.
It looks like believing that your potential is limited to what’s in your bank account.
It looks like believing that you are limited by your current circumstances.
It also looks like denying your emotions. Ironically, when you focus on what you don’t want, when you deny your emotions… when you re-affirm that you are limited by your current bank account or circumstances, you reinforce the very conditions you wish to get rid of.
This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t be aware of your current limitations in resources.
We must see things as they are. But, we cannot make this worse than they are.
And, once you become aware of a limitation, your aim must be to focus on the solution to that limitation.
Think of it as arguing with a dark room.
No amount of blame, argument or complaining will have any effect.
But, when you turn on the light, the darkness fades.
In this case, the “light” that I’m talking about is how you focus your attention.
Are you primarily focused on the problem or the solution?
Most people have a Ph.D. in their problems and a kindergarten education in solutions.
And, most people don’t even know what they really want.
There is no clear OUTCOME that they are going for.
So, if you don’t know what you want, the Universe can’t bring it to you.
And, you won’t know what Courageous Imperfect Action to take because you will lack the clarity of your next step.
If you don’t know where you are going – then no matter where you arrive, it’ll be your doing.
So, the fix is this.
Get clear on your OUTCOME.
Go beyond the fear and don’t tell yourself that you “don’t know” what you want.
Guess. Try. Attempt. Make it up.
Focus on an OUTCOME that feels within reach, but is also a stretch.
Know this – your OUTCOME is not the same as your next action step.
So, once you have your OUTCOME, break it down into all the baby steps it will take to get there.
Example: My outcome is to lose 25 more pounds.
My baby steps:
1. Wake up at 5 am or earlier Monday – Friday.
2. Do not eat 4 hours before bed. (Make sure there are reminders in my calendar.)
3. Do not eat starchy carbs after 2 pm.
4. Do at least one hour of steady state cardio a day.
5. Train with weights five days a week in the gym.
6. Schedule my training and cardio.
7. Make sure that my home is rid of all contraband food items.
8. Get 7-8 hours of sleep a night.
9. Drink 1/2 an oz of water per day per pound of body weight.
10. Reduce stress through Kundalini Yoga and meditation daily.
11. Maintain compliance with my food plan and supplement routine.
You see, “losing 25 more pounds” is a specific outcome, but that outcome in and of itself does not have any clear action steps.
Now, I’ve been researching weight loss for the last two years, so I know the exact steps to take. I have found mentors.
If you are clear on your outcome but don’t know what steps to take, then it’s vital that you find a mentor – someone who has walked the path before you.
Someone who can shorten your learning curve.
Someone who can give you feedback.
Someone who can encourage you.
Someone who can introduce you to a Soul Tribe of people who can support you and lift you up.
When I lost 55 pounds in 5 weeks, I wasn’t focused on staying fat.
I wasn’t talking about all the things I had tried that didn’t work.
I was focused on the outcome (lose 55 pounds) and the daily habits associated with that outcome.
I didn’t do it alone.
I had a mentor.
You see, you have the power to create any reality that you focus on.
The only difference between people who attract what they want and those that do not is simply:
1. Clarity of outcome.
2. Break down your outcome into small action steps and focus on taking these steps.
3. The support of a mentor to teach you short cuts and hold you accountable to your own goals.
When you live your life this way, you are not resisting what you want.
You are actively creating what you do want.
We do not live in a world of lack.
One person’s gain is not your loss. It’s not too late. Last time wasn’t your only chance.
You live in infinite abundance, and the only thing that prevents you from experiencing that abundance is your focus, your habits and your clarity of a specific outcome.
TAKE ACTION AND MAKE IT REAL
1. What is the clear and exact outcome you are going for? (If you find yourself automatically saying “I don’t know” then just make it up out of thin air. The truth is you DO know. It’s just scary to admit it).
2. What are the small baby steps it will take to get there?
3. Who is the mentor that will support you in your growth?
All you’ve got to do is get clear, break it down into small steps and find mentorship.
PRO TIP: the more fear you feel, the better. Fear is a sign that you are on track to manifest your goals.
Your next steps:
A. Complete the exercise above.
B. Take one small baby step today.
C. Decide who your mentor will be and commit to working with them.
No more messing around and playing small.
It’s time to get clear and bring your goals to life.
Starting right… now.
Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!