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How To Stop Wishing For Financial Abundance And Actually Have It

I wanted to layout what I believe is the fastest pathway to creating financial abundance in your life.

It might surprise you… and it might not.

Heres’ the bottom line: you’ve got to find the fastest path to money.

Yes, making a difference is important.

Finding your passion is important.

Taking care of your loved ones is important.

And, no… money is not the most important thing.

Let’s remember what the great Zig Ziglar said about money…

“Money isn’t the most important thing in life, but it’s reasonably close to oxygen on the ‘gotta have it’ scale.”

You see, money is the vehicle that allows you to make a difference, to live your passion, to take care of those that you love.

Think about it. If we keep riffing on the money/oxygen idea… when you’re in an airplane… what is the instruction in case of an emergency?

Put the oxygen mask on YOURSELF first.

THEN help a child and/or others.

Why is this?

Because if you don’t take care of YOU first, then you won’t be able to help others… and in fact… you’ll endanger yourself, and the crew will have to risk valuable time and energy getting the mask on you when they could be doing other things.

So, just as we’ve been told countless times on airplanes when it comes to oxygen, we’ve got to take care of ourselves first, and the same idea is true with money.

Do you love oxygen more than God? Or your loved ones? Or your purpose?

No.

But without oxygen, none of that stuff can happen.

The same thing is true with money. Money is the oxygen of your purpose, your passion, and your highest ideals.

If you have a passion for helping those in need, it’s wise to start with yourself. I get it; we are a generation about passion, purpose and living higher ideals. But, without money, those dreams will never come true.

So, as much as we like to hide behind the “love/light/purpose/passion” conversation… let’s get right down to you… you need money.

This doesn’t make you bad, evil, greedy or any of that… it makes you a human being on planet earth who must play by earthly rules.

So… here are the three steps to cash, now:

1. Ditch perfection and figure out your M.V.P.

M.V.P. if your Minimum Viable Product. This is the smallest thing you can create to add the most value. In the coaching business, your MVP is typically a one-on-one coaching package.

The key with the MVP is to let it be messy, let it be imperfect, let it not have all the bells and whistles.

Reid Hoffman, the founder of LinkedIn, says this about the MVP mindset:

“If you’re not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you’ve launched too late.”

2. Shift your mindset to service over passion.

Instead of asking what your passion is, train yourself to help others.

Focus on it. Pay attention to the common threads that emerge.

Where you find yourself getting lost in time flying by.

As you focus on helping others instead of “your” passion, “your” social media, “your” bills, “your” following, etc… abundance will open up.

Why? Because you will see an infinite abundance of opportunities to serve.

3. Don’t wait for clarity, start now to find clarity.

To be successful longterm, you need two things: courage and clarity, And – courage comes first. Then clarity. Ideas don’t start out with perfect clarity. You never know as much as you want before you get started.

Instead of needing perfect clarity or a perfect plan before you start… simply start now, messy, imperfect and embarrassed with your MVP.

That’s the basic process: create an MVP, focus on how you can serve and start now.

This is the fastest path to cash.

And, the sooner you start, the better.

My greatest wish for you is that you implement what I’ve shared here.

How can you get started today with these three steps so that you can elevate yourself and generate the money you need to make a difference, live your purpose, help others and finally take care of your family?

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Feel like you are missing out? Find your purpose!

It’s normal in the course of a human life to try for a goal and fall short.

It could be a business goal; it could be a romantic goal, a wellness/health goal, a family goal or a financial goal.

One of the greatest tensions in human existence is the tension between the life we desire and our current circumstances.

This life, after all, is a process of becoming.

From the moment of our conception, we are in the process of becoming.

First, we become an infant, then a child, a teenager and then an adult.

As we age, we become (hopefully) wise, and as we approach death, we are in the process of becoming Spirit again.

Birth, life, death and rebirth… this is the cycle.

The aim of life is to be happy right where you are.

Now, what I just wrote was a simple sentence… but let me say it again because it’s important…

The aim of life is to be happy right where you are.

Happy in birth, happy in life and happy in death. Happy in rebirth.

And while our mortal body dies once in a lifetime, our dreams can die daily.

Our hopes can die daily. Our goals can die daily. Our vision for a better future can die daily.

The path of success is to learn to navigate the deaths of meaningful things in our lives with Grace and a solid mindset.

The teachings of the Buddha remind us that the root of suffering is attachment.

This isn’t to say that you cannot or should not Love.

This isn’t to say that you should not form relationships.

Or get your hopes up.

However, the aim of life is to increase our flexibility.

In the discipline of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), it’s known that the person who is the most flexible will emerge successful in the long run. In NLP, there are things called “Pre-suppositions” which are assumptions that the discipline makes about the nature of life.

One such pre-supposition is that of flexibility, which is as follows:

“The person with the most flexibility will have more choices and therefore have the most influence in any system. A choice is better than no choice, and more choices are certainly better than less choices. Similarly, if what you are doing is not working, do something else. This highlights the need to change one’s behavior and do something else, again and again, if need be, until the desired outcome is achieved. In other words, one must be able to change readily to meet new circumstances.”

So, if you have set a goal and it has not come into being yet, consider that you must become more flexible in your approach.

Consider that perhaps your mindset is too rigid, and you are too attached to a certain outcome, that, if released, would clear a path to a greater and greater outcome.

When your body is flexible, you are able to move with more Grace and ease.

When your mind is flexible, you are able to achieve happiness, fulfillment, and success with greater ease.

It’s so easy to be attached to past hurtful or disappointing outcomes and assume that your future will be the same as the past.

Yet – the future will only be the same as the past if we bring the past into the future.

How do you ensure that you do not bring your past into your future?

You make peace with it in the present moment.

And the fastest way to do that is to discover your life’s purpose.

When you know your life’s purpose and bring it to life, everything changes.

The only difference between someone who is overwhelmed, stuck, frustrated with a lack of results, not experiencing abundance or fulfilling work/career and someone who has an abundant life, meaningful relationships, fulfilling work and is able to provice security for their loved ones…

Is that the person who is living an abundant life has discovered their life’s purpose and are living it each day.

When you discover your life’s purpose, everything changes.

Abundance comes…

Fulfilling work comes..

Security for your loved ones comes…

You know your priorities and what to focus on…

The aim is to be flexible in your approach and dedicate yourself to discovering your life’s purpose and then living it each day.

 

Remember – be flexible in your approach.

Be mindful of your past limiting beliefs that do not belong in your future.

And enjoy the process of birth, life, death, and rebirth – each phase of existence has a gift.

And, when you know your purpose, you can enjoy the ride in true abundance.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you!

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Six Steps To Finally Achieve Prosperity

Do you want to be more prosperous?

Financially? Spiritually? Romantically? Emotionally?

I got an email the other day from Kerry in Maryland;

I had asked her a question which was:

What one thing could I improve that would make you happier within the next 30 days?

Kerry said:

Help the people who struggle with $ to achieve prosperity.

Kerry, I’ve heard you and am here to help today.

If you want to have more money in, to travel, to take care of your family, to live an abundant life – there are six steps you can take to get there.

When you experience lack in your life, there’s a deep seeded sense that there is “something more” for you to be, do, have or achieve.

Perhaps you see others who have abundance, and you feel that it’s impossible for you.

Or, easy for them. Or, maybe you think that those who are living an abundant life are in on some secret that you don’t know about.

Or, perhaps you think that God favors others more than you.

You’ll find out today that that’s not the case.

Abundance is your birthright.

Abundance is the nature of the whole Universe.

No matter what they say on the news, no matter what other people say – there is more than enough to go around.

You see, most of us have bought into the collective story of lack, fear and the idea that something or someone “out there” is going to come save us. And, we’ve turned “God” or “Source” or “The Universe” or “The Divine” into some kind of vending machine that is supposed to give us what we want as soon as we want it.

Oh, and we tend to expect that the process of living our dream life will be:

– Easy. – Have a perfect plan figured out ahead of time.

– Require no real hard work.

– That it should be as easy to do it as it is to talk about doing it.

– Based on how much green juice we drink, quinoa we eat or meditation we do.

– Will be the “path of least” resistance. – Will happen immediately.

– Won’t require us to grow or face our deepest fears.

– A path that everyone in our life agrees with and encourages us to keep going.

– Won’t upset anyone.

– And we will never be rejected.

This is a fairytale.

Call it the Manifestation Fairytale.

Or the gross misinterpretation of the Law of Attraction.

You could also call it something else – entitlement.

The Law of Attraction is real. But so is the Law of Courage, the Law of Hard Work, the Law of Persistence, the Law of Humilty and the Law of Becoming A Person of Value.

The only problem you really have is the expectation that you shouldn’t have any problems.

A vision board is important – but it’s not enough.

Meditation is important – but it’s not enough.

Yoga is important – but it’s not enough.

Reading self-help material is important – but it’s not enough.

Here’s the truth about abundance:

It’s your birthright, but you must earn it.

The easy path, in the end, is the hard path.

So, we need to see abundance with new assumptions about who we must be and what we must do to earn it.

We must change our expectations of ourselves and how we are showing up.

We need a new game plan.

When you are abundant, you can serve others, take care of people that you love, travel, be free and live the life that you dream about.

This is a big deal. No small thing.

That’s why I am sharing my Six Steps to Achieve Prosperity with you today.

Step 1 – Get Your Nervous System on Board (Burn The Boats)

Here’s the deal. We are not built to follow through.

The human brain is great at two things:

1. Coming up with big ideas.

2. Responding to in the moment threats.

Somewhere in between our big ideas and the day-to-day distractions, interruptions and “threats” our good intentions get lost.

Your vision board gets stuffed away in the closet.

Your self-help bookshelf becomes the shelf of wishful thinking.

Your partner starts to question all those courses you bought.

You retract into the expectations of your peer group.

Then you might blame Mercury in retrograde for why it didn’t happen.

The real truth is, you didn’t make a real decision.

You hoped. You wished. You may have even prayed.

But, you didn’t engage your nervous system.

Making a decision that makes your body go “OH SH*T” is what I’m talking about.

It needs to be a threat NOT to follow through on your good intentions.

Think about times in your life when you HAD to follow through whether you wanted to or not.

Your butt was on the line. You had to do it.

You’ve got to design a decision like this into your life.

The first time I ever invested in a big seminar or retreat, my whole nervous system was put on alert.

My nervous system said:

Mastin – you need to show the hell up. You need to move.

My clients tell me regularly that investing with us keeps them motivated and accountable to their good intentions.

It keeps the main thing, the main thing.

When you engage your nervous system, you access a level of creativity, resourcefulness and drive that you didn’t know you had.

In short: you’ve got to burn the boats.

Step 2 – Get A Mentor Who Knows The Road Ahead

Not all mentors are created equally.

Please never hire me to teach you how to do brain surgery. I’m not your guy.

You want to invest in and hire a mentor that has BEEN where you want to go.

They know the map. They know the terrain.

(BTW – the map NEVER matches the terrain).

So, you don’t want just a mapmaker.

You want someone who has been there/done that.

Mentors do not do the work for you.

They guide you. Give you tools. Help illuminate blind spots. Challenge you. Hold you accountable to who your dreams require you to become.

Finding a mentor is vital.

Don’t go cheap on this.

Mentorship is not a commodity or something to under value.

Finding and investing in the right Mentor is a game changer.

You might be thinking, “But what if I don’t have enough money to invest in a Mentor?”

That’s the exact thought that is stopping you.

I just told you that you are in an abundant universe.

That thought must change to a question, “How can I create the resources to invest in a Mentor?”

And, if you have no idea… here’s a good exercise.

It’s a little violent… it’s a little shocking… but it’s effective. And it works 100% of the time.

OK? READY?

Think of the person in your life that you love most (other than yourself, lol).

Now, if there were a gun to this person’s head and you had to find a way to come up with the money or resources, what would you do?

If you didn’t – then this person would die.

Make this a real consideration and scenario for a moment. Go there.

What ideas are coming to mind?

I told you… that’s an intense image… but… your brain will all of a sudden come with SO many ways to make it happen that it never thought of before.

You see, it’s not a lack of resources, it’s a lack of resourcefulness.

Get curious. Get hungry. Take action.

You have no idea how capable you really are.

Step 3 – Become The Person It Takes To Create Abundance

Who you’ve been showing up as has to change. It’s time to raise your expectations of yourself.

It’s time to ask:

Who must I become to create real abundance? How much I act? What must I believe? What limiting beliefs must I let go of?

Perhaps the most important part of becoming the person it takes to create real abundance is this:

To declare that, no matter what you’ve been through, you are not powerless over your circumstances.

You are not a victim. You are stronger than you’ve allowed yourself to be.

Yes, painful things have happened in the past.

There is healing that must be done.

But, if you are blaming your circumstances, your family, someone who hurt you, the government, the economy or anything else for why you aren’t where you want to be, you are shutting off abundance in your life.

Abundance is not created by what you’ve been through, but rather how you choose to respond to what you’ve been through.

People who live an abundant life know how to find the diamond in the pain, the rainbow in the storm, the lesson and power in the trauma.

Abundant people know that they must take their power back and that no excuse is valid.

Excuses are simply limitations of the survival mind.

But, every excuse has a workaround. Every limit has a way to overcome it.

The buck starts and stops with you. It’s time to mature the wounded parts of you that like to blame everything and everyone else.

Trade victim thinking for accountability.

Trade declarations of lack into statements of curiosity.

Take meaningful action to heal your wounds.

When you do this, you become an abundant person.

And, things start to really change – and fast.

And, here’s the deeper truth (it might hurt, but it needs to be said):

If you don’t heal, if you don’t take your power back, if you don’t pick up your staff and declare that the buck stops with you…

The people who hurt you, the people who doubted you, the people who said it couldn’t be done:

THEY WIN.

Screw that!

Take your power back – prove them wrong.

Success is sexy. And success is the best revenge.

Step 4 – Lower Your Expectations And Finally Embody Your Self-Help Bookshelf

Every day, make it a point to consume inspirational material.

And, every day, set aside time to IMPLEMENT it.

This will require you to lower certain expectations.

What… what?

Mastin you just told me to raise my expectations.

I know – hear me out for a moment.

You must raise your expectations of yourself and lower your expectations of how much you can get done in a week or month.

Huh?

Lemme ‘splain.

There is a fatal by-product of “thinking big” that needs to be addressed.

This fatal by-product is the big thinking trap.

It goes like this:

1. I’m going to set a massive goal.

2. I start taking action.

3. But the goal is so far out of reach, I get frustrated and give up.

4. Then, I feel guilt and shame for giving up.

5. Then, I stop and go back to normal life.

6. But, I’m overwhelmed, stressed and feel out of place.

7. So, I go for the big goal again.

8. And the same thing happens.

9. I repeat this cycle until I finally resign myself that my dreams are impossible.

What’s the remedy for this maddening cycle?

Lower your expectations (in the short term).

Instead of going for a massive goal, go for a small win.

I actually look at my productivity and goal setting one week at a time.

I ask myself, “What’s one thing I can accomplish this week that will really move the needle forward?”

And, then I focus on that one thing.

This needs to be really practical.

Like:

– Publish my website.

– Post daily on social media.

– Actually… ask for help.

– Say, “I love you.”

– Say, “It’s over.”

– Finish the #1 item on your to-do list.

– Give notice at your job.

– Wake up at 5am.

– Don’t eat carbs at night.

– Walk for 30 min a day.

Just one thing.

What’s one thing you can do this week that moves the needle forward?

Ask yourself this question weekly and focus on that one thing, and you will be amazed how much momentum will be created – and fast.

Step 5 – Find Your Soul Tribe Here’s the deal – you cannot do this alone.

Who you spend time with is who you become.

You will embody the expectations of your peer group.

You mold your environment and then your environment molds you.

If you have a bunch of naysayers in your life (many who even Love you) – then you won’t create an abundant life.

It’s time to set new boundaries with anyone in your life who drains your energy.

It’s time to protect your confidence.

This is not easy. But it’s VITAL.

Then, find a group of people who will support you.

Many times, the group of people who will support you can be found through your Mentor.

When someone comes to a seminar or retreat or an online program with us – they get an instant Soul Tribe.

These are people who see who you are now.

Who believe in who you are becoming. When you find your Soul Tribe.

Don’t just take. Add value. Help others. Serve them.

The fastest way to get someone to help you is to help them first.

You need a squad. You need a Soul Tribe. No one is successful in a vacuum.

No one does it alone.

Cut the chords with negative people.

Send them Love.

And hang out with people who speak victory into your life.

And speak victory into theirs, too.

Step 6 – Be Patient & Make This A Lifestyle

Abundance is the reward of patience.

Lack is the result of impatience.

Your desire to live an abundant life is the precursor to that life happening.

But, young padawan, you must be patient.

It’s an oxymoron, actually.

Because you must be hungry for change.

And at the same thing, you must be patient in how it all happens.

Wayne Dyer said it best:

Infinite patience brings immediate results.

Do not worry that your time has passed by.

Do not worry that you are missing out.

Do not worry that it’s too late.

Do not fret over the idea that you “should” be somewhere else by now, or further along.

Make peace with your rate of progress.

Make peace with where you are right now.

Remember that everything happens in Divine time.

Even if you aren’t 100% sure of it, decide that you are exactly where you’re supposed to be.

Dedicate your life to this path.

Stop seeking quick fixes, magic bullets and any get rich quick ideas.

Become a person of value.

Add value to others.

Dedicate your life to being a servant. To being of service.

Abundance flows to those who serve.

Humble yourself.

And, like water, abundance will flow down to you.

Do not turn God into a vending machine.

Recognize that you have been given this precious life.

You have been given the gift of a body you didn’t create, that is kept alive by a beating heart you did not create, you breathe air you did not create and are kept warm by a Sun you did not create.

Realize that you’re a miracle.

Realize that it’s a gift to become the person it takes to create abundance.

See everything in your life as something that is FOR YOU, not against you.

Remember that you never walk alone.

Know that every setback is a lesson you must learn.

Decide that abundance is who you are.

Be hungry to make it happen, and don’t be in a rush for how long it takes to happen.

Just show up every day with a renewed spirit, a curious mind, and an open heart.

Decide – RIGHT NOW – in this moment to BURN THE BOATS and see how creative and resourceful you really are.

At this moment, whether you see it or not, everything you need is at your fingertips.

Don’t ask for the world to change, decide to change how you see the world.

Resources are there, right now. Look for them.

And know this: GRATITUDE is the bedrock of an abundant life.

When you focus on what you’re grateful for, you will be given more to be grateful for.

Now – this is your CALL TO ABUNDANCE, take ACTION NOW:

Reply to this email and let me know:

(HINT: if you find yourself saying… “I don’t know” – then… STILL answer these questions and imagine I asked you: “I know you don’t know, but if you did know what would you say?” Saying you “don’t know” or any derivative of this statement must be banned from your vocabulary.)

1. How will you finally get hungry burn the boats today?

2. Who is your mentor going to be? How can you find the resources to make it happen?

3. Who or what are you ready to stop blaming? And how will you take responsibility for your life from now on?

4. What is one step you can take this week to move the needle?

5. What negative influences are you letting go of, now? And, where will you find your Soul Tribe?

6. What can you be patient with today? How is what’s happening right now all in Divine order?

I am looking forward to reading your response.

You’ve got this, Kerry. I’m so proud of you.

May you live long, and prosper.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

How To Create A Rock Solid Abundance Mindset

If you’re like me, then there is a part of you that knows on a deep level that you are an Infinite Soul contained in a temporary human body.

That means that who you are is Infinite.

And it can be so frustrated to be constrained by the limits of the physical world.

When I was couch surfing (for two years), I used to hear teachers like Wayne Dyer talk about abundance and get so confused.

If abundance is the natural state of the Universe, why am I not experiencing it?

When you are in that state of lack, life closes down.

Your stress limits the options you see.

You miss out on playing a bigger game.

Resources tend to run from you.

And, you don’t live your unique purpose.

Lack is an internal emotional state of being, it’s not the nature of the Universe.

When you step away from lack and open up into greater possibility, that is when everything changes for the better.

But how do you do it? How to make the leap from lack to plenty?

One answer:

Cultivate A Rock Solid Abundance Mindset

Here’s Seven Steps to take to do it:

1. Live for today.

Make peace with the past and do not fear the future. Cultivate a present moment mindset and see that all your needs are met. The best way to create a bright future is to bring all you focus, love, enthusiasm and energy to doing your best TODAY.

2. Be of service, now.

There are an infinite number of ways for you to help someone else. Reach out and do it. Don’t wait to impact others, find someone, anyone to help now. Remember, life supports what supports life.

3. Open up and receive.

Many times we don’t get what we desire because we are sending the Universe mixed signals. Part of us is saying, “come here” and another part is saying “go away”. Remove any blocks you have to receive and let in all that love that you so freely give to others. You’re worth it.

4. Turn statements of limits into questions of possibility.

Instead of proclaiming, “I can’t start my business”, “I’ll never find love” or “lose the weight” or “I don’t have enough time/money/whatever”. Turn those statements into QUESTIONS. How can I start my business, now?What is the most effective way to find love?How can I create enough time/money/etc?When you change the question you change the answer. When you change the answer, you change your life.

5. Take daily CIA.

You are in the CIA now baby. Courageous. Imperfect. Action.Be scared every day. Do it while make lots of mistakes to learn from. And turn this philosophy into action. Scary, mistake laiden action. You will be happy you did.

6. Burn The Freakin’ Boats Baby!

Make a decision you can’t come back from. Part of the reason you are procrastinating is because you haven’t made a real decision. Why haven’t your circumstances changed? Truth: because a part of you likes them how they are… and is comfortable with the status quo. Crush the status quo by making a decision you can’t come back from.Burn the boats baby!

7. Know that you are always guided

This is a receipe to shake things up. And it can be scary. Tune into your Higher Power. Know that you are guided. See that everything is happening FOR you and not TO you. Ask, “What’s the spiritual lesson in this?” then get still and listen. Then turn that answer into action.If you want to see how much faith you really have, look at the action you’re taking, not your vision board.

It’s time to ACT:

How are you going to apply today’s lessons and cultivate an abundance mindset?

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

The cure for procrastination and fear…

“I suffer from Procrastination and fear.”

That’s what Jennifer shared with me.

When I first read this….

I thought to myself… whenever I hear words like “I suffer from…” typically words that follow are words like:

– A heart condition

– Cancer

– Diabetes

– High-tone deafness

And YourDictionary.com uses the words “suffer from” in the following sentence:

“The illness your father suffers from is the same I suffer from.”

I was a little surprised (which rarely happens, because I’ve seen a lot of feedback and coached thousands of people)…

And I couldn’t believe Jennifer used the words “suffer from” to describe procrastination and fear?

Why?

First – let me say here… because this is the written word after all… there is no judgment of Jennifer.

Girl – I feel you.

The reason I was so surprised is because I’ve never seen (in over 10 years of doing this) someone describe procrastination or fear that way.

And, I really get you Jennifer… I get how it can feel to be stuck in procrastination and also in fear.

But, I have great news for you.

Procrastination and fear are not terminal illnesses that you have to suffer from anymore.

Do you know what they really are?

They are just patterns. That’s it. Nothing more.

And they are a specific kind of pattern that I happen to be an expert in.

Those patterns are called Survival Patterns and they exist for a good purpose.

And Survival Patterns can be changed.

You see, your whole body is designed to keep you safe and alive.

Your nervous systems thinks that if you stay in fear… you’ll be safe.

Your nervous system also procrastinates because if you keep procrastinating… you’ll be “safe”.

But… I know you want more out of life than to just be safe.

You want to thrive… to life life to the full.

You wrote to me Jennifer that your financial situation “sucks”.

I want you to consider something you may not have considered before – and see this as a second opinion.

Perhaps the reason why you don’t have as much money as you want is because you do not believe you are worthy of allowing money to support you.

And, perhaps you believe that you aren’t enough to be seen for what you really want to do in your vocation and career.

Perhaps you bought into the lie that you are not worthy… and do not deserve support… and that as you start to take action in the direction of courage to do what you love, to add value to others and help solve problems… to open up and be seen… that you will find that you will be more than financially provided for.

True abundance is falling in love with problems to solve in the world… opening up and allowing yourself to be seen in the processs and then allowing yourself to also receive back all that is good for your great deeds.

So, here’s the deal: you have to ask yourself if you are willing to allow yourself to receive support… and help.

And… are you willing to receive back all that is good, in the form of money, love, connection and praise?

Your hurt and your trauma that you believe is the cause of your financial situation is also a prerequisite for your Purpose.

Your job is to heal your pause hurt and then get busy serving others to do the same.

Jennifer, in the feedback form I asked “What’s one thing I could do to improve your life in the next 30 days” and you wrote…

” Reach out to be about my worries.”

Your wish is my command Jennifer.

I’m so proud of you. And so grateful for you.

And so excited for what’s next for you.

Poverty is not about how much money you have, poverty is a mindset and a belief set.

Seek out people around you who are doing well. Hang with them.

Focus on serving others. Read inspirational material. And most importantly do one thing you are afraid of each day.

Jennifer, you are seen… you are heard and girl… you are loved.

I’m so proud of you and thank you for writing in.

Because the true key to abundance is to discover your Purpose and then bring it to life.

You don’t suffer from procrastination and fear… they are just Survival Patterns that are keeping you safe.

But ships aren’t built for safety dear one, they are built to brave the storm.

You got this, Jennifer. Do it now. Do it messy. Do it afraid.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Five Awesomely Simple Steps To Turn Failure Into Success

Look – chances are… when it comes to your dreams, you’re most likely getting in your own way. The right mindset changes everything.

Everything…

Cuz’ when you have the right success mindset – that means your behaviors line up with your goals.

But, even high performers get their mindset messed up.

Why is this a bad thing?

Your life doesn’t flow. Dreams get put on hold. Doors close. Opportunity stops knocking. And – worst of all…

The limitations of your past become the possibilities for your future.

Not good.

So, if you want to end financial fear, if you want to quit the soul sucking job… or grow your business…  be in a soulmate relationship…

Get your` mind right.

Here’s five awesomely simple ways to turn failure into success:

1. Get Curious

Old thought: I can’t do this because…

New thought: I wonder what it takes to create…?

2. Start Small

Old thought: I have to do this all at once and don’t know where to start…

New thought: I can do this one small step at at time…

3. Be Specific

Old thought: I am going to love my body… (vague)

New thought: I am going to work out 5x a week, cut refined carbs and drink 1/2 an oz. of water per pound of body weight (specific)

4. Focus On Outcome

Old thought: I always self-sabotage because…. (discussing only the problem)

New thought: For this project to be done, it would look like… (with specific outcomes)

5. Dedicate Yourself to Life Time Mastery

Old thought: I’ve been doing this social media thing for a couple weeks and it’s not working. I’m not reaching enough people.

New thought: I’m going to master social media, always learn and it’s an honor to reach the people that I do now.

My advice to you is this:

Trade your limiting beliefs for curiosity…Turn major projects into microsteps…Turn unclear behaviours into clear action items…Turn vague visions into clear outcomes…Turn dabbling into a dedication to mastery…

.When you do this – anything is possible.

Your purpose is counting on you to do this.

And when you apply what I’ve taught you here… you turn any failure into success.And that’s awesome.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Sick And Tired Of Missing Out On Love?

Many times we wish and wish for the right romantic partner come into our lives.

We don’t seem to understand why it’s not working out with others. We end up in toxic, unloving relationships, and deep down know something better is out there.

The challenge is, when something better does come along, not to run away. After years of disappointment, heartbreak and unhappy endings, it can be very easy to close down on real love.

No matter what, don’t’ let that happen!

Remember, strength in the muscles of your body is created by your muscles being ripped apart, and then rebuilt. Your heart and your emotional intelligence and fitness operate the same way.

It is easy to close down after you’ve been hurt. It’s easy to throw a wrench into real love when it comes. I understand it’s scary, but WHO CARES!

Move forward in spite of your fear.

Move forward INTO the scariness of it all. Be courageous. Don’t let fear win.

OPEN UP anyway. The risk of not opening, in the end, is far worse than the risk of opening. Don’t let love pass you by. Don’t let fear win.

NO! Instead, let love win.

Open up, even when, you are afraid. Open up, even when you are scared of getting hurt. Open up, even when you don’t know what’s going to happen.

Listen to me: LOVE WILL PASS YOU BY if you always choose the safe path.

I am not suggesting that you open up to the first person who comes along.

No.

I am not suggesting that at all. I am suggesting that when you have a connection with someone, when you feel it, when you are so scared of how much you feel it, go in the opposite direction of your fear. Do not be afraid of the love you feel.

KNOW THIS: The right person will meet you. The right person will show up. But they can’t if you don’t open up.

Learn to value openness. Open your heart. Don’t “plat it safe”.

Don’t let the wounds of the past create a wounded future. No.

It can be different. Love can be yours. But first, you must be open to it.

Learn how to be more loving from your past pain, not how to be more closed. Don’t give up on love, no, give IN TO love!

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

How To Turn Your Impossible Dreams Into Reality

“If you have 500 things half done you’re not staying busy, you’re wasting your life. You don’t have the time to be distracted. Focus, take action… and you will overcome any block.”  – Me

Do you have an idea and are stuck figuring out how to create it?

Do you feel like you’re spinning your wheels, confused about where to start and might be starting to believe that you just gotta settle and just be happy with what you have?

Here’s the thing, it takes hunger to bring your dreams to life my friend.

You have a desire of what you want… and have a fire inside you that won’t be extinguished.

When you are alive with passion and purpose… your energy lights up everyone and everything.

The world needs your light.

I see people struggling to figure out HOW to build their dream business all the time.

If you’re struggling with the “how-to” of all this… let me share with you 5 steps that will help you take those invisible daydreams and turn them into your actual reality.

Step 1: Write Down Open Loops.

Open Loops are everything you want to get one either: now, later or someday. Everything that’s on your mind. Your mind is not a filing cabinet, it’s a creative machine. Get all the “to-do’s” off youd mind and into one place.

Writing down your Open Loops reduces overwhelm and gives you a place to being.

For example, if you want to leave your soul-sucking job and start your own business, you may identify an open loop as needing to write a plan of action, research your target market and connect with your ideal client to get feedback on the services you want to create.

Action: write down all your open loops in one place that you can reference weekly, I recommend the WunderList app.

Step 2: Desired Outcome

Be specific about what you want to achieve and “by when”.

State it in the positive and present tense. Write down the outcome that you want, not what you don’t want. Too many people spend all their life talking about what they don’t want and they wonder why they don’t have it.

Action: write down the outcome that you want to achieve and by when, such as your business making $50,000/year by Dec 1, 2017. Don’t get caught up in whether you can do it by the date or not, just set the goal.

Step 3: Your Vision

Imagine the day that your dream comes to reality. What does it feel like? What does it look like? Who are you with? Step into the feelings of it. See it crystal clear and create a compellng vision for the future that you are creating for yourself. Not someone else’s future… YOURS.

Action: write at least one page of what it would be like waking up Dec 1, 2017 and you’ve done it! Be as specific as you can be.

Step 4: Courageous Imperfect Action

How do you eat an elephant? That’s an age-old question with the same answer… one bite at a time… And if you are vegan…. how do you eat a Redwood Tree? Well… maybe not the same thing, but you get my drift…

Look at your open loops – put them in priority and grill down to the next specific action step that you need to take to get it done. Be specific. Make it grounded. Make it actionable.

Action: Identify your top/most important open loop then all the specific action needed to make it happen. Such as finally publishing your website, going on a retreat to get your business up and running in seven days or setting a boundary with a toxic relationship.

Check out the Productive app to help you make a routine out of the daily tasks.

Step 5: Focus

As I just mentioned… learn to say no and set boundaries. Say NO. You hear me. NO is ok. Say it about 100% more than you do right now. Saying NO can be HUGE for your dreams to come true. Do it. Now 🙂

Action: Where are you distracted or spending time that does not serve you or your purpose? Start saying no to these energy drains – now.

You must create the space you need in your life to bring your dreams forward.

Trust me. And let’s get into action.

Follow these steps and you will leave behind any overwhelm, struggle, stress or any of that and move forward successfullt to make your impossible dream…. well, possible. And not just possible, a reality.

Let me know, what is your impossible dream? And what is the first action you are going to take to get there?

Big things happen when you take small steps. Let’s take that step together today… right… now.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

How To Turn Wishful Thinking Into Excellent Results

Do you ever make a promise or set an intention and then find yourself wondering why you didn’t follow through?

Have you done it more than once? Maybe more than twice? Maybe an uncountable number of times?

If you’re like most people, then your self-help bookshelf (digital or physical) is most likely the “Zone of Wishful Thinking.”

It’s almost as if you just bought one more book or course; it’ll all change.

Books, courses and such without action are just Wishful Thinking Tokens.

Perhaps you have so many Wishful Thinking Tokens that you have resigned yourself that none of them actually work.

Well, the key to unlocking the power of the Wishful Thinking Token is to drop down into grounded action.

If you are like most people, you tend to assume that when you set your “intention” to complete something, that you will actually do it.

But, you most likely haven’t.

And you make it about yourself and why you can’t follow through.

Perhaps you assume it’s a character defect, or perhaps you think it’s because you are a bad person.

What if it wasn’t “your” fault? I’ve found that many times folks don’t follow through because they are at war with themselves.

There is a wiser part of them, their intuition/heart that seems to be at odds with the survival part of them, or their Survival Patterns.

The inner conflict between the intuitive voice and the Survival Patterns is where the tension of growth exists.

You are not following through because of how you are wired.

Without awareness and training, your Survival Patterns are much more powerful and louder than your intuitive guidance.

SP’s tend to react the loudest to whatever is going on at the moment, without much care for how it will effect you long term.

This is why you have a hard time putting down the sugar, the wine, the toxic relationship, etc.

Your SP’s are reactive to whatever it is going on at the moment.

Your intuitive voice is guiding you to a future you cannot yet see.

The reason why your self-help section, your courses, etc. aren’t working is that your SP’s have distracted you right out of taking action on them.

There is a payoff to procrastination: you survive.

Not taking action has a reward.

So, how to make the shift?

You must cultivate a daily practice to align with your intuitive voice and create “cues” around your home and office to remind you of what your intuitive voice is guiding you to do.

Learning to follow and trust your intuitive voice is like building a muscle, it takes time, and it hurts.

But, the reward of doing so it beyond what you can now imagine.

Get still. Listen. Calm the SP’s and reactive time.

Create cues to keep your actions aligned with the outcome that your intuitive voice is guiding you towards.

And remember, it’s not “your” fault.

These crazy SP’s are trying to keep you safe. But, they are messing up your destiny.

Take your power back, right now.

When you do, you will keep your word, be there for those that matter most and turn your shelf of wishful thinking into a pedestal of your destiny.

It’s time to keep your word, finally follow through and bring your destiny to life.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

Fed Up? Here’s How To Actually Change The World

This quote will set the tone for the blog today.

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” – ― Rumi

If I asked you to finish this sentence, what would you say?

“The world is…”

What would your honest answer be?

Some might say… going crazy, depressing, stressful, fearful, entering the end times…

Some others might say… exactly as it should be, a playground, at my finger tips, full of abundance.

The key is not to pick an answer that you think sounds the best or makes you feel the most holy.

No.

The key is to answer honestly.

When you answer honestly, then you can also state the same thing about you.

Huh?

If you would honestly say that the world is fearful. Or entering end times. Or full of abundance.

Well, then we can also state the same thing about you.

I feel fearful. I feel like I am entering the end times. I feel full of abundance.

In fact, most of how you see the world is actually what’s call “projection”.

Which means that how you experience people, places and things “out there” is actually a reflection of what’s going on “in here”.

Everyone is unaware of their unconscious feelings.

And, we tend to experience our unconscious feelings as if it were happening out in the world, instead of within our own beings.

Projection creates all kinds of problems. Blame. Wars. Falling outs. You name it.

And, if you aren’t honest about how you actually feel, well no amount of green juice, colonics, GMO-free food, fancy yoga pants, supplement, hormone balancing diets, probiotics, asanas, breathing techniques, meditations, online courses or self-help books can help you feel emotionally better.

Don’t get me wrong. All that stuff is important.

But it’s just more spiritual entertainment if you aren’t honest and disclose what’s really going on with you and dedicate your life to turning your wounds into power.

What’s true is that you have a natural teacher within you.

You are not seeking anything other than your own, wise, Self.

Great teachers always point you back inside yourself.

And they can help you get there faster, but they cannot do the work for you.

You’ve got to stop looking for Savior or someone to blame and be willing to take responsibility for the circumstances of your life.

Your Savior is within you. You are the CEO and President of your Heart, Mind, and Spirit.

And, you’ve got to get the emotions out. But the way that most people have been trained to get the emotions out is to just express them.

They think that expression is enough.

But, it’s not. In fact, just expressing negative emotions without taking conscious action to improve your life actually makes everything worse.

Why?

Because if you express them and don’t take conscious action to feel them, discover the root cause, heal them and then turn them into something positive and useful, then you are just reinforcing how crappy you feel.

And a funny thing happens.

When you like to express your negative emotions without taking action to heal the root cause, you tend to hang with folks who do the same thing.

This is why misery loves company.

You’ve got to feel it, express it, discover the root cause, healing and then let it go. The spiritual path is not meant to be the path of constant complaints about your negative emotions.

No.

The spiritual path is a healing path.

One where you accept how you feel and know that it’s not who you are. One where you know that you have a higher Self that is your natural teacher. One where you discover the root cause of your negative emotions and heal it. And then you let it go.

What happens when you do this?

Well..

You heal all the limitations in your life.

And when you do that, you can truly live limitless.

Don’t assume that just because you’ve expressed a negative emotion that that is enough to heal it.

You’ve got to go deeper. And participate in your healing. And make the hurt and transform it into love.

All you need is within you now.

You have the wisdom. You have the ability to ask for help and find a mentor. You have the resilience.

You have the power. Claim it.

That’s how you actually change the world.

Make it a great weekend.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!